fear! State of Mind

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

cassanova35

Don Juan

Nov 7, 2010

Does this not make you think, you wish to attract that women but for some reason you start feeling nervous, sweaty and scared for some reason which leads to fear right?

But just before you saw that women you were fine, so my question is simple what made you turn towards fear?

was it the fact that you find the women attractive?, is that her sex appeal caught you off guard? what is it?

Because fear is a state of mind, you look at something or someone and beleive you cant do it or talk to that person, its a subconcious reaction, to something you like but are not sure of.

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.