"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I'm a guy that has no problems getting girls to like me but when it gets to the point where I gotta close the deal I freeze up I withdraw into a shell.. Any tips on how to get rid of that mental roadblock?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Well, I think the first step is to be brutally honest with yourself for a minute. There has to be some hidden (or maybe not so hidden) reason for the freeze up at this time.

Could it be that you feel your performance in bed isn't good enough? Might be hard to admit, but that could be something holding you back.

If you don't mind sharing, how often do you have sex? When was the last time? How was it?

EDIT: I was looking in New Posts, and didn't realize this was in the High School forum. May need to switch up advice here, but feel free to answer my previous questions first, if they apply.
 
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Bro my bad lemme clarify.. I meant close the deal as in make her my girlfriend aha but thanks though
 
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Yeah, that's what I wasn't sure of once I saw this was the HS forum.

But, I'm not sure I see the issue. If you know you can get girls to like you, that's not only the hard part, that's the only part. At that point, you just ask them. The fact that they like you is enough for them to say yes no matter how you do it. Just invite her out somewhere, maybe groups of friends the first time or something.
 
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I feel you. It happened to me so many times.
I think the only way is to just do it for once. Try and assume it will work, be positive about it.
Even if it doesn't you've confronted the biggest fear you've acknowledged that you have.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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