"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I'm a guy that has no problems getting girls to like me but when it gets to the point where I gotta close the deal I freeze up I withdraw into a shell.. Any tips on how to get rid of that mental roadblock?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well, I think the first step is to be brutally honest with yourself for a minute. There has to be some hidden (or maybe not so hidden) reason for the freeze up at this time.

Could it be that you feel your performance in bed isn't good enough? Might be hard to admit, but that could be something holding you back.

If you don't mind sharing, how often do you have sex? When was the last time? How was it?

EDIT: I was looking in New Posts, and didn't realize this was in the High School forum. May need to switch up advice here, but feel free to answer my previous questions first, if they apply.
 
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Bro my bad lemme clarify.. I meant close the deal as in make her my girlfriend aha but thanks though
 
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Yeah, that's what I wasn't sure of once I saw this was the HS forum.

But, I'm not sure I see the issue. If you know you can get girls to like you, that's not only the hard part, that's the only part. At that point, you just ask them. The fact that they like you is enough for them to say yes no matter how you do it. Just invite her out somewhere, maybe groups of friends the first time or something.
 
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I feel you. It happened to me so many times.
I think the only way is to just do it for once. Try and assume it will work, be positive about it.
Even if it doesn't you've confronted the biggest fear you've acknowledged that you have.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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