Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Fear Of Contacting Her On The Phone!any Tips

ALPHAROMEO

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OK YOU GET HER DIGITS
BUT YOU RE SCARED OF RINGING HER
How to you go about busting your fear of calling?
ANY TIPS ?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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jophil28

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Fear disappears on the other side of action.

Ask yourself what you want from her..a date perhaps ?
How do you get a date ?
Call her and ask her.

It is that simple.
 

playerone

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I'm guessing if someone is asking for advice on having fear of holding a conversation over the phone, 9 out of 10 times he hasn't built enough rapport or held an actual conversation decent enough to leave a winning impression. If you had, talking on the phone would be peanuts. Hence, in this case, wait a few days as usual, and call her up. At the start, you would want to hold a decent, C&F conversation with more funny than ****y. You will never go wrong with humour. ****iness is, however, fire at the early stages. You don't want to go overboard, especially if you are not a master at calibrating it yet. Gradually, with good response from her, add a pinch of ****iness, until you balance it well with humour.

Since you haven't had the inner game to leave a golden impression, it doesn't matter if you screw up on the phone. The key is to screw up and learn from it. After a few more nervous and jittery phone conversations, you will eventually become comfortable. You'd be a master at talking over the phone.

Once you become a master at phone conversations, you work on talking face-to-face, and this is the key. After you become good at this, nothing would be a problem anymore.

You realise that this is a learning process and you simply have to keep field-testing and experimenting every step. Take every woman from now as an experiment, nothing more. You don't want to put too much emotions into it, you're still learning. Take your time. After all, this is just having fun on your part. You learn more from failures than you do from victories. Don't be afraid of failing, embrace it instead. Go through all the steps without skipping any, and all your questions about women will be answered along the way.
 

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Ohhh GOD.Fear of not getting inside her vagina is more scary than fear of calling.
I have a fear of not getting inside her vagina.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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