Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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fcked up. dropped the L word 1st.

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been with my girl for 3 months. and I knew i should have waited for her to say it 1st but today was romantic and crap so i let my emotions overcome logic and told her i loved her :down:. i knew she wasnt going to say it back and she didnt but i played it off and acted like i didnt say it. this girl has been played alot before so she takes love seriously. she kept asking how do i knw im in love wat is it about her that i love and i told her that i just felt it... anyways the way i see it is as long as i dont start becoming submissive and a poosy i should be fine and im not going to bring up love again until she says it to me. any feedback guys?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Sounds like you might be getting alittle oneitis. The only thing you can do now, is preventing yourself from becoming too submissive and of course to wait.

LTRs can be troublesome. Since you keep yourself to one girl, you give all your attention to her, and somehow you will begin to idolize her. So before she starts to avoid you and become less interested with you, meet up some new girls, spread your attention over a few girls(not cheating), but mainly play the game with the girl you like now. Of course, it might not be nice to meet other girls while you have a girl with you. But we're DJs.
Be nice, Be gay, and she'll disappear.

So, in a nutshell, pull back alittle now, since you've pushed too far.
 

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I banish you. You are banished.
 

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thats this relationship f*cked ha.

by the way, if anywone ever asks you what love means, it means GIVING your LIFE for that person.

once a married guy smuggly asked me what it meant, that answer soon shut him up ;-)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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DonGorgon said:
LOL... love... you fool.... now you must act very unavailable and odd with her... DO NOT ACT LIKE YOU LOVE HER AND DONT SAY IT EVER AGAIN...

DonGordon's right. You made a serious mistake man. Get ready,because now I can promise you that her behavior is going to change. She'll probably start acting a bit distant and a little standoffish,start spending less time with you,etc. Take Don's advice and alter your behavior with her a little. And please,please don't say that again unless she says it first,and even then,use caution.
 

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You've just handed her the relationship power on a plate.


You'll have to show her you're willing to walk away from the relationship at any time and just because you love her doesn't mean you're going to accept bad behaviour and bad standards.


Don't say it straight out but hint at it over time. You can still be the prize and still show her that your standards remain.
 

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wow most guys on here gave bad advice. i would say, if your happy with the relationship then carry on doing what your doing, because obviously it is working as you have been togethor for a few months now...

dont worry about it, you dont have to ignore her, or do anything different, if you wanted to say it, then thats fine no probs.
You're wrong.
Her behavior will unconsciously become worse . She will treat him different because she knows she have power on him .
 

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If you've been with her for 3 months and you have to play games and make sure you're not the first person to use a certain word in a sentence, move on.

Not because you're doing anything wrong, but rather she is too judgmental and immaturely into the mind games to have a pleasant and healthy relationship with.
 
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This ***** i was with said it after 2 and 1/2 weeks of dating and it creeped me out. I knew she would be a total nut case but anyways, tell her how much you love the food at mcdonalds, how much you love your dog, the fall season, pretty much over use the word.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yeah, you messed up. Make sure not to say it again until she does, and I'd pretend I didn't say it. If she calls you on it, say you love her like a girlfriend of 3 months, or some crap like that.
 

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Big deal... Don't worry about it.
 

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lol honestly after reading metalfortess' taking love back the masculine way. Im not submissive with her i never have been. so nothing is really going to change. and shes actually become more clingy and attached. so I dont see a problem with what i said. i mean yeah you should never say it 1st. but if you do dont act any different and you should be fine.
 

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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
Big deal... Don't worry about it.
my favorite response. i think we get way too wrapped up in some things here...
 

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Play it down by random overuse of the word. Use it on your favorite restaurant, you pets, certain cars, bands, ect.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Does it matter to what happens? If she goes nuts on it, then he's can just next and move on. If she actually starts feel the same way... then you get something that every dj here one day hopes for.
 

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Miguel said:
Does it matter to what happens? If she goes nuts on it, then he's can just next and move on. If she actually starts feel the same way... then you get something that every dj here one day hopes for.
+1

If telling your girlfriend you love her offends her, there's no harm in nexting her (and I don't next women too quickly either)
 

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slightly off topic....

what if you threw out a line "i'd love to go the <something something> with you on Friday Night" to a girl

i think if you said it in person, she'd immediately replace the word "love" with "like" but if you texted that line in SMS she might read too much into it...

what do you all think, just came up with this just now :D
 

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DonS said:
Why don't you just tear off your testicles and hand them to her. While you're at it, put on a dog collar because your "I love you" has given her a leash.

Well, at least you will soon learn how terrible this AFC moment was. You are going to be paying for this one for a long time: A lot less sex; no more bj's; she'll start giving you that disapproving look a lot more often.

Dumb, dumb, dumb. Don't ever do that again.
Might as well not get married then :D
 

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AFC Championship said:
slightly off topic....

what if you threw out a line "i'd love to go the <something something> with you on Friday Night" to a girl

i think if you said it in person, she'd immediately replace the word "love" with "like" but if you texted that line in SMS she might read too much into it...

what do you all think, just came up with this just now :D
Yea, I don't see any problem with saying that. It's basically a figure of speech. Like "oh I love this TV show" or "I love Christmas". People say it all the time.

I was just going through old texts and when I asked a girl out to dinner she responded "Hey! I would love that. [blah blah blah]"

It definitely shows interest, but it's not a crazy unacceptable thing to say.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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