Hey guys, I've been lurking for a while on this forum, and had learned many a good thing concerning women. I'm currently working on acting out on good advice here and completely dropping the AFC mindset. So far the results are good, considering a prior relationship with a BPD left me in bitterness and disillusionment for two years after the breakup. Man, am I glad the pain is gone now.
Anyway, I thought I'd share the details of my recent FB relationship with you, since there was a thread about such things not long ago. I met this 34 year old girl at a rockband party a few months ago, and was surprised how easy it was to interact with her. At the time I didn't expect anything sexual, since I saw that she was way older and I acted in a goofy and nonchelant way with her.
Cue in a week of banter on facebook, and I'm quite sure that she's interested. I mean, the girl is cute. Thin redhead with nice ass, and an interesting person to boot. So I figure why not, whatever happens happens, better to take the chance than sit with a d1ick in your hands at night. So I invite myself over for a movie at her place. I nail her within the hour. She tells me she doesn't really do this, as in put out so fast. I assure her that I don't see her as being slutty, she can blame me for coming on too strong.
Cue in next 6 weeks. I keep running mild game on her - send her rediculous texts of the things I'd do to her at night. I always crack the most off the wall jokes, and she eats it up. She can't get enough of me, says I'm one of the best sexual partners I've had. We discuss our arrangement and both agree that it's short term and that we're looking for others while taking care of our needs. Then it gets to a point that I'm practically there every night, and it starts to feel like a relationship. I know I shouldn't see her as much, but I just can't refuse the free sex every night. Well, we get into routine of watching House before going to bed, and a few times she's too tired for sex. I let it go. It doesn't help that first she, then I get sick from a cold and we start spending platonic nights together.
In any case, about two weeks ago after I make her come with my tounge she asks if it's alright if she just gives me a bj this time because she's wants to buy lube and she's been hurting from sex without sufficient lubrication. I agree. Well fellas, it becomes nothing but BJ the next two weeks. She justifies it by saying she's too tired, or that me giving her a massage gives her just as much pleasure as sex. At first I gave her the benefit of a doubt, but after a night when she was not aroused at all - I couldn't make her come, I knew that her IL is gone.
Next time I see her, same crap -- too tired. She gets up on Saturday morning, doesn't let me initiate sex because she's going for a run but asks me to stay in bed until she's back. She proceeds to wait for an hour before going on that run and comes back when there's no time for sex and she is late for a party with her friends that afternoon. She blows me off and says, "see, I gave you pleasure!". But I couldn't help but see how giddy she was to not be with me to go somewhere else. At this point I'm thinking, the pus$y well has dried up for whatever reason, time to end it. Half hour after I leave I send her a text saying goodbye, and to put my show we've been watching in the mail. That was and will be my last contact with her. She blows up my phone at first with BS, then leaves a message saying sorry, "I've been acting weird lately because there's a friend who I'm interested in." Bingo! I had no idea, but calling her on bs made her confirm it and try to guilt trip me for feeling sorry for her.
In any case, I realized that I lost the frame halfway through the relationship when I stayed over without having sex and didn't call her out on the bj thing right away. But the IL was gone, and she tried to make me supplicate and be her "friend". Not going to happen. Long rant short, I'm glad I had this experience and in the way I handled it even though it did not end how I thought it would. I'll be looking to grow and learn from this, and start banging higher quality, younger girls soon.
Anyway, I thought I'd share the details of my recent FB relationship with you, since there was a thread about such things not long ago. I met this 34 year old girl at a rockband party a few months ago, and was surprised how easy it was to interact with her. At the time I didn't expect anything sexual, since I saw that she was way older and I acted in a goofy and nonchelant way with her.
Cue in a week of banter on facebook, and I'm quite sure that she's interested. I mean, the girl is cute. Thin redhead with nice ass, and an interesting person to boot. So I figure why not, whatever happens happens, better to take the chance than sit with a d1ick in your hands at night. So I invite myself over for a movie at her place. I nail her within the hour. She tells me she doesn't really do this, as in put out so fast. I assure her that I don't see her as being slutty, she can blame me for coming on too strong.
Cue in next 6 weeks. I keep running mild game on her - send her rediculous texts of the things I'd do to her at night. I always crack the most off the wall jokes, and she eats it up. She can't get enough of me, says I'm one of the best sexual partners I've had. We discuss our arrangement and both agree that it's short term and that we're looking for others while taking care of our needs. Then it gets to a point that I'm practically there every night, and it starts to feel like a relationship. I know I shouldn't see her as much, but I just can't refuse the free sex every night. Well, we get into routine of watching House before going to bed, and a few times she's too tired for sex. I let it go. It doesn't help that first she, then I get sick from a cold and we start spending platonic nights together.
In any case, about two weeks ago after I make her come with my tounge she asks if it's alright if she just gives me a bj this time because she's wants to buy lube and she's been hurting from sex without sufficient lubrication. I agree. Well fellas, it becomes nothing but BJ the next two weeks. She justifies it by saying she's too tired, or that me giving her a massage gives her just as much pleasure as sex. At first I gave her the benefit of a doubt, but after a night when she was not aroused at all - I couldn't make her come, I knew that her IL is gone.
Next time I see her, same crap -- too tired. She gets up on Saturday morning, doesn't let me initiate sex because she's going for a run but asks me to stay in bed until she's back. She proceeds to wait for an hour before going on that run and comes back when there's no time for sex and she is late for a party with her friends that afternoon. She blows me off and says, "see, I gave you pleasure!". But I couldn't help but see how giddy she was to not be with me to go somewhere else. At this point I'm thinking, the pus$y well has dried up for whatever reason, time to end it. Half hour after I leave I send her a text saying goodbye, and to put my show we've been watching in the mail. That was and will be my last contact with her. She blows up my phone at first with BS, then leaves a message saying sorry, "I've been acting weird lately because there's a friend who I'm interested in." Bingo! I had no idea, but calling her on bs made her confirm it and try to guilt trip me for feeling sorry for her.
In any case, I realized that I lost the frame halfway through the relationship when I stayed over without having sex and didn't call her out on the bj thing right away. But the IL was gone, and she tried to make me supplicate and be her "friend". Not going to happen. Long rant short, I'm glad I had this experience and in the way I handled it even though it did not end how I thought it would. I'll be looking to grow and learn from this, and start banging higher quality, younger girls soon.