"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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FB or 'normal girlfriend'?

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Happy New Year to all you people. I'm starting this year with the mindset of having sex for the 1st time, after a dry 2007 in terms of women.

I know this chick from college since last year, we chat up at school, at MSN, etc, giving her no signs of me being intimidated by her looks (av. 8.8 chick). 3 Days ago I went to her house to do a **WARNING** wussy behaviour thing with her (I'm too ashamed to post it here), and didn't make my move to kiss her on the first place (I think she wanted to be kissed because she was wetting her lips from time to time and even she kinda touched her ass with her hand while we were laying on the floor).

I'm aware I overanalyze stuff, but I'm determined to be good at this.
So my question is if she could become only a **** Buddy or maybe a LTR.

I don't know how this thing works were if you would like a girlfriend first thing you need to do before getting 'commited' is having sex with her. I'm from Mexico, BTW, so I do not have the 'field experience' so I can't judge if overall this also applies to my town which is in the north part of Mexico, somewhat near the US border.

I'm also ashamed to admit to the buddies I hang out with that I've never had a girlfriend, some of them are like 2-3 years younger than me so asking for an advice on this kind of stuff is lame.

So far, the attitude I'm incorporating is: BE IN THE MOMENT, and try to CLOSE the deal even though I have not made that much progress..

Anyways, 2008 should be a glorious year for me, I'm tired of being an AFC jerking off everynight to my porn collection

What are some cues you should do to avoid getting in the 'friends zone'. I just want to start smacking some chicks.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I hope you have sex many times before dating any woman. Read the DJ bible.
 

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Use a lot of kino.
 

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nEVER mind

Just wussed out the hell out of me while chatting with her an hour ago:

goes something like this: (we were chatting about girls being too innocent)
I tried to ask her if she had have sex already (she's 22), but I typed as:
Me: Have you done it already? (translated from Spanish language)
Her: do what?
Me: see, you play the innocent one.
..
then later on she tells me that I need to have the balls to say what I want, and later I post:
Me: So, do you consider sex as a natural thing, or do you make a big deal if it.

WHICH. *drum * drum *

Translated into a <her name> seems offline.....

I added her also on a 'fake' chick account so I the logged-off my account and login with the fake one and still there she is.

I KNOW I SCREWED THIS UP. IS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD... BUT... SHE KNOWS A FRIEND OF MINE,, AND IF SHE TOLD HIM I COULD LOSE MASSIVE SOCIAL VALUE IN COLLEGE. DAMN THIS SUCKS....

All of this is because at early age I thought girls were nice and didn't like sEX, consciously I know now they LIKE it, but I still have the same old thought buried in my head and can't get it out.


PLEASE BE NICE WITH ME, HERE IS A DUDE TRYING TO GET LAID.
 

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ok. will do. I'm tired of reading stuff as in the whole 2007 I spent hours and hours of theory but no practice.

Could anyone give advice on how should I behave if she her at school (IS VERY LIKELY I'm going to see her). I need to des-wussify myself.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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