FB keeps canceling / making excuses

[Crissco]

Or atleast I think. We were going at it good 2-3 times a week for about a month. She even slept over a couple of times. I didnt care, helps show i trust them.

But for the past two weeks..It goes like this:

Me: Hun come hang out tonight at 9
Her:If I can get a car ride or a borrow a car i will
Her: hey, im not in the mood to hang out, someother time

Her: Hey can you hang out tonight
Me: Cant hun, already have plans, tommorow night i can
Herk

(next night)
Me: Hey lets make it for 830 tonight
Her: I already made plans for tonight, someother time

Hey:Hey what r u doing tonight?
Me:.....etc...make it for 9
Her: ok
Her: Hey something came up i cant chill tonight, another time

Happened like this 2 more times, basically me initating it, her saying shes two tired from work and gonna be busy all week...etc


Which in the past never happened.....I think i gave her to many chances IMO..Should i just say **** it and cut it off completely..

or

just not give a ****, hit her up everyonce and a while, if she comes over and fu*ks, she does, she doesnt, she doesnt no big deal


Crissco

 

[st_99]

just not give a ****, hit her up everyonce and a while, if she comes over and fu*ks, she does, she doesnt, she doesnt no big deal
Crissco

of course this is what you should do.

clearly she's cooled off for whatever reason (and who cares what the reason is, doesnt matter) but most guys will get upset and go NC and get all weird and sh!t. BUT, imo, the best thing you can do is not give a fvck and just hit her up and whatever happens happens like you said.

but honestly, most guys cant do that because they already caught feelings.

 

[Crissco]

of course this is what you should do.

clearly she's cooled off for whatever reason (and who cares what the reason is, doesnt matter) but most guys will get upset and go NC and get all weird and sh!t. BUT, imo, the best thing you can do is not give a fvck and just hit her up and whatever happens happens like you said.

but honestly, most guys cant do that because they already caught feelings.

Actually thats what ive been doing, didnt talk in a week, putting other girls first. Making her my last resort, decided to text her today bc the date i was going to go on basically flaked.

 

[st_99]

Actually thats what ive been doing, didnt talk in a week, putting other girls first. Making her my last resort, decided to text her today bc the date i was going to go on basically flaked.

a lot of guys will go nc and hope she starts blowing up their phone but honestly, i think you lose the frame that way because thats really an act of defensiveness and its reactive.

its funny how this stuff works, if you TRULY don't care and just hit her up every now and then for sh!ts and giggles you tend to get good results.. but if your REALLY DO care and you're pretending like you dont care, you usually get bad results, its almost like some weird law of the universe or some sh!t.

 

[Crissco]

a lot of guys will go nc and hope she starts blowing up their phone but honestly, i think you lose the frame that way because thats really an act of defensiveness and its reactive.

its funny how this stuff works, if you TRULY don't care and just hit her up every now and then for sh!ts and giggles you tend to get good results.. but if your REALLY DO care and you're pretending like you dont care, you usually get bad results, its almost like some weird law of the universe or some sh!t.

You hit the nail on the head bro. Noticed the same thing

 

[GhengisT]

Your princess is in another castle.

 

[Crissco]

Your princess is in another castle.

Exactly why im gonna hit her up occasionally, fu*k her good, keep her on the back burner

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Ive been in two FB relationships and I've noticed the exact opposite. Not that they can sense when you do or dont care and are more attracted when you don't, that part is true. But it was long periods of utter uncaring NC that they would hit me up and be interested. When I would try to keep the fires alive by hitting them up, I would get the ice 2-3 word responses, flakes, denials etc. Remember, women in openly FB relationships(meaning mutual) are damaged women, they HATE abandonment and the FB status is a lot about chasing and controlling you.

Exactly! Well said.

Crissco: You were seeing here way too much for a consistent basis for a FB. 2-3x a week?!

No specific #, but in general I'd say that's how often you should see them in a month (2-5x) if she truly is just a piece of @ss.

Then you get the back and forth because its a power struggle; a one upping.

I put girls like that on ice for a solid week, but they usually come running back within a few days.






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[spinaroonie]

Ive been in two FB relationships and I've noticed the exact opposite. Not that they can sense when you do or dont care and are more attracted when you don't, that part is true. But it was long periods of utter uncaring NC that they would hit me up and be interested. When I would try to keep the fires alive by hitting them up, I would get the ice 2-3 word responses, flakes, denials etc. Remember, women in openly FB relationships(meaning mutual) are damaged women, they HATE abandonment and the FB status is a lot about chasing and controlling you.

2-3x / wk sounds a bit much. OP might be getting too clingy after sex.

Curious, what makes women in FB arrangements damaged?

 

[Crissco]

Exactly! Well said.

Crissco: You were seeing here way too much for a consistent basis for a FB. 2-3x a week?!

No specific #, but in general I'd say that's how often you should see them in a month (2-5x) if she truly is just a piece of @ss.

Then you get the back and forth because its a power struggle; a one upping.

I put girls like that on ice for a solid week, but they usually come running back within a few days.






PIMP

I know u know ur **** bro. Seems ur posts been here for a while. IYO what should i do here?

OP might be getting too clingy after sex.

Tends to happens to me more often then not. Have my reasons

Ive been in two FB relationships and I've noticed the exact opposite. Not that they can sense when you do or dont care and are more attracted when you don't, that part is true. But it was long periods of utter uncaring NC that they would hit me up and be interested. When I would try to keep the fires alive by hitting them up, I would get the ice 2-3 word responses, flakes, denials etc. Remember, women in openly FB relationships(meaning mutual) are damaged women, they HATE abandonment and the FB status is a lot about chasing and controlling you.

Ive actually had about 3 in the past year. But it also depends on the girl, some girls just dont hit me up and others hit me up all the time, all depends on there interest level

 

[spinaroonie]

However, when a chick is agreeing/offering to just have casual sex with at least one guy while sleeping with other guys, that is a sign of a damaged slvt that does not attach with sex.

Usually women hop from **** to ****. They have a main **** they ride on exclusively until they find another ****. I don't think it's common for women to be riding multiple ****s concurrently.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

I know u know ur **** bro. Seems ur posts been here for a while. IYO what should i do here?

If you notice from you OP, there's a trend that goes on with you two. You ask her to hang out, she says she can't. She hits you up a day or two later and since you are too worried about seeming too available and want to portray the "I've got a life outside of you" vibe you then tell her you can't hang out.

Where this has taken you?

No man's land.

Its so obvious that you are trying to play the game with her and honestly she likely has picked up on this... there's ALWAYS a game going on, but you don't want that to be overt..... you want it flying under the radar.

Its almost like how guys here who like a girl, then read about "no contact" decide "alright I'm not gonna call her or text her" and see if she comes running. Well, no contact first of all, is a strategy designed to help you move on from a girl, not get her hot for you again...but that is off subject a bit; no contact only works IF the girl has interest/feelings for you to start off with....taking away your attention only works if the girl liked/cared about you to start off with....


So comparing it to your situation, it seems pretty obvious that out of the two people, you are the one who at least WAS more attached for a time being. If she offers a time to hang out, agree to it and go. Phuck her good, have fun with her and re-plant the seed.

Don't follow the set formula that says if she cancels one time then I have to cancel the next time. This ONLY works if you truly do not give a shiat about the girl, which is the way a phuck buddy situation should be.

I have put girls on ice for as long as 2 weeks if they canceled on me refusing to call/text them because I wasn't afraid to lose them, only to have them not only come back to me (boomerang) but come back stronger than ever.

I think you said its been over a week since you two last talked? Well hit her up if you haven't heard from her and try to set something up. If she gets flakey again, put her on the back burner for a while and see if she comes back.

If she doesn't then she doesn't and it was likely because you weren't acting lie just a phuck buddy; you were exposing your feelings and she sensed it. But if she does, then you have a chance to start fresh and implement the new attitude.


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