Fathers

[Fender]

I just got into an argument with my dad yesterday, etc.

But through the argument, i've realised that I am scared of my father. I FEAR him. It's hard to get on with life when living with someone u fear.

I was just curious if you guys also have this problem.

Also, since I've grown up a bit, I think we're having a clash of our male egos. Before, it was a father and his kid. Now its father and....man. Doesn't work very well. Theres a bit of a power struggle.

I know this ain't related to chicks, but this is the best place to post it.

thx

 

[familyguyfan]

What's he done to you that would make you fear him?

The best way to overcome it is to truly understand why you fear him.

 

[Fender]

I fear him because of his anger.

When he's angry, he's more or less out of control.

And most of the time, i don't think his anger is justified (ie. irrational, anger at small things).

And its because of this fear of anger, I myself hardly ever get angry. And when I do, i bottle it all up cuz the last thing i wanna be is like my dad....

thx familyguyfan though for the reply

 

[Morphiex]

yeah i have the same problem in somewhat way....

Its like hes the reason i aint confertable in the house , and its only whens hes away on a trip or something i feel confertable... U and me both need to get our asses out of the house and get an apartment or something.... I cant live with him much longer now....

 

[Fender]

Morphiex, I've been having similar thoughts for the past few yrs! But I gotta wait two more years until i can escape...damn.

So for now, moving out is not an option.


And yes, he gets angry at my mother, me, storeclerks with bad service, etc.

 

[dannowillbookem]

psh i have the same problem with my dad...but my mom started yelling at him and he's stepped into line a bit. i used to hate him, actually despise him and want to move out the day i turned eighteen. but now he just pisses me off occasionally and i avoid him when he's in a ****ty mood.

now that i think about it we havent fought in a long time. no wonder things have been boring around here lol.

 

[Morphiex]

Originally posted by dannowillbookem
psh i have the same problem with my dad...but my mom started yelling at him and he's stepped into line a bit. i used to hate him, actually despise him and want to move out the day i turned eighteen. but now he just pisses me off occasionally and i avoid him when he's in a ****ty mood.

now that i think about it we havent fought in a long time. no wonder things have been boring around here lol.

yeah i just avoid him as much as possible now.... and Necxt year im moving out cuz im going to a uni on the other side of the world so thats when ill hopefully have the best time of my life...

 

[08aisaac]

Man my dad was really an alcholic and had some anger issues and myy stepmother was evil so I moved about a month ago. Plus I get a new chance with some really ot babes at my new school. lol

 

[dannowillbookem]

Originally posted by 08aisaac
Man my dad was really an alcholic and had some anger issues and myy stepmother was evil so I moved about a month ago. Plus I get a new chance with some really ot babes at my new school. lol

i didnt kno u can move out at fifteen...

lol i still like the money and food and ****

 

[08aisaac]

I moved in with my mom.

 

[familyguyfan]

Noob, it sounds like your father is seriously abusive. You need to do a few things.

First off, call the police about that last incident. Let them know he's been abusive. They won't be able to do anything this time, but if you tell them about it, if it happens again, they will take action. That's why you need to call them now and not wait until he does it again, because if and when he does it again they won't be able to do anything unless you call in the midst of his rage.

Secondly, start going to the gym and bulking up some. I'm not suggesting you fight your father, but it would do you good to be able to defend yourself if you ever needed to and show him you're serious about him stopping.

Third, once you're able to (your parents may not let you so you might have to wait until you're out of the house) try and get some therapy because situations like this can have negative effects on you later in life.

The fact that your mom is just brushing aside his actions tells me she's not great herself either, so you can't count on her to do anything about it. You're gonna have to follow those steps on your own.

And NO dealing with your father is NOT the price you have to pay to live. No one should have to go through something like that, that's not how a good father behaves. Saying that is like excusing his actions.

 

[08aisaac]

yeah. Idk about the popo because I never did that but maybe consider moving in with relatives