"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Fathers' minds and their children

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A friend of mine has recently become a father (not out of want but a more of a: surprise I'm pregnant situation) and I began to think about how mens' minds and bodies change once they realise they're going to become fathers.

In my own experience, during the few times I have thought a girl I was seeing was pregnant, the changes I noticed in myself during that period before I found out she wasn't was an increase in stress (obviously), anxiousness, and I also started to become slightly more protective of her and even a bit paranoid of her activities. This wasn't to a large extent - I still kept my game-tight - but seeing as I'm not a father, I want to know if there are general, shared experiences that fathers on the forum found themselves going through: once they realised they were going to be dads, during the pregnancy and after the birth.

Also, I couldn't find much information, if anything, on how a man's mind changes during the the mother's pregnancy but I found some on how it changes when the child is born, the links are here:
http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-brains-of-our-fathers/
http://www.slate.com/articles/healt..._examiner/2007/06/stretch_marks_for_dads.html
(Beware, these links have beta content but this was the best I could find. There's such a lack of info in this area that it's almost upsetting.)
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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There's an article here you might be interested in.

http://www.theamericanconservative.com/dreher/fathers-of-girls-more-conservative/

They say both men and women tend to drop their past sh!tlibbery feelz based ideologies/indoctrination when they become a family with children. It's definitely been true with everyone I've grown up with and observed who had children. Obviously not the single mothers but rather mother/father couplings without a doubt.

One fella in particular who was my wing was quite logical and grounded in reality but still would on occasion blurt out leftist TV buzzwords. He now has 3 kids and actually scored more politically conservative than me without any real red pill awareness last year in one of those online tests.
 

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I read the article and that was interesting stuff, but what about less political stuff and more about how fathers change? So Suave is the only place where I think I can get a few answers.
 
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