"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Fat Women EVERYWHERE?!

mpimpin

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Lately I've been cursed with fat women trying to get into my life. On two separate occasions I've had friends try to set me up with fat women. And an ex trying to get back with me who is now a fatty. This weekend at a wedding I had a bridesmaid ask me out and she was a fatty.

How do I break this curse?! These women need to lay off the Super sized meals and hit the gym.

Anyone else have a problem with the fatties?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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from previous experience, when i had issues with fat women dealing wtih me ((for the most part you got some out there that just don't give a damn) it's becuase i was what they thought somewhat on their level from a physical standpoint. good looking but not too good looking not to talk to if that makes sense.

now for the most part they just stare. you got some that just have golden 20 inch balls and do not give a damn, and i actually respect that, but politely decline, but that's usuallyw hen i had fatty issues.
 

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Didn't read your location backbreaker, but I was in Del Mar just last week on business at the Hilton off rt5! I gotta say the number of fat chicks in SoCal is significantly less than here in Virginia. The number of fat chicks actually brings my mood down a lot. Its worse where I am now when compared to the city though. People here do not seem to care at all about their appearance.
 

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yes but i'm from little rock, AR, the biscuit and gravy capital of the world. 150 is considered slim there. lol
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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synergy1

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backbreaker said:
yes but i'm from little rock, AR, the biscuit and gravy capital of the world. 150 is considered slim there. lol
I bet you mean for the chicks.

to make things worse, the number of single moms down here is astonishing. Noticeably higher number than the north. its like a double whammy down here....

I wouldn't complain if I end up in SoCal someday.
 

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Any time I unhide any online dating profile, I get a bit depressed that I get flooded with emails from fat chicks. It hurts a little with them possibly thinking they're on my level. "Ugh, what vibe am I putting out here?!"

Then I remember that they're probably just playing the numbers game and emailing nearly everyone.

I mean I hope.

God this is depressing. Fvck this thread.
 

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mrRuckus said:
Any time I unhide any online dating profile, I get a bit depressed that I get flooded with emails from fat chicks. It hurts a little with them possibly thinking they're on my level. "Ugh, what vibe am I putting out here?!"

Then I remember that they're probably just playing the numbers game and emailing nearly everyone.

I mean I hope.

God this is depressing. Fvck this thread.
Amen.

I've got 2 lined up waiting for me to be single. They both claim they can suck the chrome off of a trailer hitch. Being that I have heard this is true for most fatty fat fat fats I plan on finding out for myself. Then I'm never talking to another fat chick in my life.
 

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Amazing said:
let me guess, you are skinny?
Yup, that'll do it. From experience if you're skinny and confident you can get all the fat chicks you want. Which is not really a good thing...
 

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Amazing said:
let me guess, you are skinny?

Yeah... and have even lost weight recently
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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mpimpin

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SrDedosRapidos said:
Amen.

I've got 2 lined up waiting for me to be single. They both claim they can suck the chrome off of a trailer hitch. Being that I have heard this is true for most fatty fat fat fats I plan on finding out for myself. Then I'm never talking to another fat chick in my life.
Years ago I had this fat girl theory that they would put in more work and could prob **** better then skinny hot chicks. I never went through with testing the theory. If I could find a fatty with a cute face I'd give it a shot. I've had super skinny girls and found them a bit boring, but flexible. One average girl who was a lot of fun. I mainly find myself attracted to the skinny girls though
 

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Haha...fun thread....
A friend of my moved from Southern CA to somewhere in New York due to work. He was a ladies man here in CA and guys were mad that he hooked up with so many hot ladies (at least 7 on my scale).

A day after moving to NY, he called me and was pretty much in tears because there were so many whales and they were hitting on him like crazy. I laugh my arse off that day.

Then a year later, he came back to CA for a visit. He pointed to a 4 and said she was hot. I gave him the strangest stare (What?).
 

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L B said:
Haha...fun thread....
A friend of my moved from Southern CA to somewhere in New York due to work. He was a ladies man here in CA and guys were mad that he hooked up with so many hot ladies (at least 7 on my scale).

A day after moving to NY, he called me and was pretty much in tears because there were so many whales and they were hitting on him like crazy. I laugh my arse off that day.

Then a year later, he came back to CA for a visit. He pointed to a 4 and said she was hot. I gave him the strangest stare (What?).
sad but true. The scale starts to go down once scarcity sets in. I am holding my ground, but going to a situation like the one you described has proven to be a challenge to cope with thus far. People are uglier in certain parts of the country, especially the further from a city or populated area you are.
 

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L B said:
Haha...fun thread....

Then a year later, he came back to CA for a visit. He pointed to a 4 and said she was hot. I gave him the strangest stare (What?).
LOOKS are all relative....
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Southern California is full of hot girls because most of the people are Mexican. Mexico leads the world in producing gorgeous girls.
 

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BigJimbo said:
Southern California is full of hot girls because most of the people are Mexican. Mexico leads the world in producing gorgeous girls.
until they have their first child... then they double in size and facial hair
 

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BigJimbo said:
Southern California is full of hot girls because most of the people are Mexican. Mexico leads the world in producing gorgeous girls.
It's relative man, I find blonde bombshells to be that, the BOMB! My heart races, oh and people complain about the american accent, I love the squeaky noisy voice of an american girl, LOVE IT.
 

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Amazing said:
Yeah, start hitting the gym and it will go away
I'm not out of shape. Just skinny but tone. You recommend getting bigger muscular? Make it stand out that obviously I workout and like to be in shape?
 

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until they have their first child... then they double in size and facial hair
Give me a short thick hairy Mexican women with a thick Latina accent. Hot as hell.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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