Over the weekend, the crew and I spent the evening enjoying the warm weather at a local beach. One of the chicks in the group is a heavy woman close to her mid twenties and a self proclaimed feminist, who wasn't always this way. In fact, one can find on pictures on her Facebook from two years ago, where she appears thin, feminine in the way she dressed, and a very attractive curvaceous body. HB9 territory.
Amongst our group, we've tried to figure out what happened. "She sure let herself go" was the best we could come up with.
Now back to the beach day, she finally shone light on it. Somehow the conversation steered her to speak about the current state of her appearance and why she is fine with it. Basically, she acknowledged her significant increase in weight and how it is part of her new identity. In her words:
"I can eat and drink as much beer as I want and still fvck any guy I want. Guys come to me. I had to cancel a 4th date last night with a guy who is too needy. So why change? I am comfortable with myself."
I know she is not kidding. Every time I come across her at the bars, it seems I see her with a new dude. Granted I applaud her for not changing herself to please others, I wonder how much of this comes from our western culture of accepting obesity, feminism, and men simply lowering their standards. My guess that it is a combination of the above plus psychological underlying issues of some women.
I do and I don't pity this chick. Her time will come where she will no longer be desirable and this could lead to larger internal issues. I am sure there is an abundance of women like this out there and some of you guys have encountered this nonsense.
Amongst our group, we've tried to figure out what happened. "She sure let herself go" was the best we could come up with.
Now back to the beach day, she finally shone light on it. Somehow the conversation steered her to speak about the current state of her appearance and why she is fine with it. Basically, she acknowledged her significant increase in weight and how it is part of her new identity. In her words:
"I can eat and drink as much beer as I want and still fvck any guy I want. Guys come to me. I had to cancel a 4th date last night with a guy who is too needy. So why change? I am comfortable with myself."
I know she is not kidding. Every time I come across her at the bars, it seems I see her with a new dude. Granted I applaud her for not changing herself to please others, I wonder how much of this comes from our western culture of accepting obesity, feminism, and men simply lowering their standards. My guess that it is a combination of the above plus psychological underlying issues of some women.
I do and I don't pity this chick. Her time will come where she will no longer be desirable and this could lead to larger internal issues. I am sure there is an abundance of women like this out there and some of you guys have encountered this nonsense.
