"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Fat, but potential...

aussiegoat55

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I have been talking online, emailing this chick who I thought looked pretty decent, good face, decent body, 6.5, 7 from just one pic she sent me. We have things in common, she's intelligent, we flirt, I tease, etc. But she sent me some more pics and I found out she's fatter than I thought she appeared to be in her first pic. I immeaditley lost a lot of sexaul attraction and really toned down the teasing/C+F/energy. She said she is working out because she thinks she is fat.

Now the dilema, I bet people have this one too. Do you know a girl who has the potential to be good looking or real hot if she lost a good 20 to 50 pounds? I want to keep talking to her and eventually meet in person but the sexual attraction is not as strong, but it sure could be. I want to say I prefer thinner women and encourage her to keep working out if she ever wants a romantic relationship with me. I feel like saying that, but first I want some second opinions.


I could easily next her and move on, but in this case that would be taking the easy way out, so don't tell me to move on. Put a little thought and effort into your reply. Thanks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sachiel

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Actually, I found a girl who DID lose the weight, and looks fantastic. We're not dating yet, but I've been using the good ole ****y and Funny on her, and it's working like a charm!

However, most of the time, you can't pressure a woman to lose weight. A good percentage of the time, they must do it on their own. Do be careful of the girls that have lost weight. They can be very insecure about their bodies. Or, on the flipside, they may be really confident. Depends on the girl. However, there hardly is a middle.

-Sachiel. DJ in Training
 

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20-50 pounds? ask her how she is planning on doing it.

then play along for a month and see if there's progress.s if not, next
 

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I would say wait until she can actually prove it by losing the weight... UNLESS you still think she is hot, if you like em big, GO FOR IT, if not dont.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sachiel

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It COULD be possible, if she's not overly self-conscious, to take her on a date to the gym. Risky, yes. But what's life without a good risk?

-Sachiel, DJ in Training
 
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