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Fast girls = relationships?

GuanYu

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I'm curious to know how do you guys perceive women that give it up fast? Would you even consider it an accomplishment? Perhaps get into a relationship if she qualifies but gives it up within a week?

Reason I ask is because my brother is currently in a relationship with a woman he had sex with really fast. I think he met her at work, banged her a week later then two months later or so she was ready for a relationship and he liked her so went for it.

However, everytime we hang out with them I see her eyes are always constantly wandering. Something about her doesn't sit well with me.

It could be game, but more than likely if another dude said the right thing wouldn't she give it up fast to them also? Do you all put any importance on this or should you just take the woman for what she is if she makes you feel good and is a decent person.
 

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I think whether this is a good or bad omen depends on several factors:

-How attracted she is to you physically
-How horny she is
-Time since her last lay
-Personal/self-esteem issues
-The presence of alcohol
-Atmosphere

If you are a strong, muscular, handsome guy, you really can get away with a lot more (Im serious). I say this because I used to be a skinny dork. Now I'm just a bigger, more mature dork. :rolleyes:
If a girl is really attracted to you physically you will encounter little to no resistance on your way into her panties.

Horniness and time since her last lay are also big factors. She is much less likely to put up roadblocks and/or rationalize to herself later why she fvcked you if she hasnt had a man in a while.

Personal/self esteem issues are something you really have to have a discerning eye for. Some girls will sleep with you for no other reason than they have little self-respect and probably do this with a lot of other guys. Remember college? You never know where a girl has been.

Which brings us to ALCOHOL, destroyer of inhibitions. I would venture to say that 85-90% of my sexual encounters involve alcohol to some extent. A few drinks in the right atmosphere, some sweet talking, and at the very least you are making out and feeling each other up.

So that's my take on what causes it, but as far as entering a relationship with a girl you layed within the first week; I dont think it's a great idea. At the risk of getting blasted for being touchy-feely moral guy, I think it's better NOT to immediately bang a girl you think has LTR potential. Easier said than done, I know; but some problems could be averted this way.

On the flip side, avoid girls who make you play the waiting game. A few dates, ok, but beyond that it is never worth it.
 
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GuanYu said:
but more than likely if another dude said the right thing wouldn't she give it up fast to them also?
From my experience I'd say most likely yes, but if a girl makes you wait it doesn't necessarily mean she has made every other guy wait too though.

If your question is will the girl who gave it up fast also be more likely to cheat in a relationship, then maybe but I don't think that's necessarily the case because what someone would do while single isn't necesarily what they'd do in a relationship. Whether or not they cheat more, I think girls that have sex fast have a lot more partners than relationships and are more likely to have short relationships.
 

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If women tend to sleep with you fast, then it is NOT HER, BUT YOU, that is causing the situation. If you are at the point where women tend to want to sleep with you fast, as whereas before they would want to wait longer, you know that there is a good chance she would make most other guys wait, and sees you as higher value and wants you to like her.

If you know YOU GOT LITTLE OR NO GAME, and she stills sleeps with you fast, then you can conclude she sleeps around, and quick with almost every guy.
 

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Gangsta pretty much has it.
If you are on your game they want you because you are making them wet for it. If you feel that you aren't on your mojo, they give it up because that's their program.
So many other factors are at play here. I'd say that the only thing I'd really look out for is a chick that has sexual hangups. If they make you wait, etc. Those are the ones to look out for. Most normal well adjusted women are into it by date 3-4. That's been my experience. Ahhh my favorite part, the lift. When she raises her hips so you can slide the panties off. That's the goal line. LMR and ASD are no longer being thrown at you.
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Knight's Cross said:
] I'd say that the only thing I'd really look out for is a chick that has sexual hangups. If they make you wait, etc. Those are the ones to look out for.
Quoted for truth.

If you have a tough time getting the girl comfortable enough to take her panties off, imagine all the fun you'll have when you try to do ANYTHING remotely interesting in bed.
 

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Dear Guan Yu,
In general women who make you wait are better wife material,but the reason they make you wait is they are not highly sexed,believe me women like this will not be adulterous,but gradually they will put the screws on you till you come back to a decent amount of sex (In womens eyes),say once a fortnight,then a month...now the girl who comes across quickly is highly sexed and if you can keep her interested she will hang around,but always be ready to find someone else.
 

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^^ That makes a lot of sense. This explains why my brother's girlfriend seems to always look at other guys, doesn't bring him around her friends and doesn't have any photos of them together on facebook, etc even though they're "official".

Personally, I've always liked getting in the panties asap, but definitely would be very hesitant about starting an LTR with a fast woman. It doesn't raise her value any and most of them come off as freaky, ho, etc..

All of your replies are great, thanks.
 
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