"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hi, I'll strive to be short. So, a year ago I have met this girl who I really liked and practically fell in love with her. She had a friend which was pretty too but she didn't mean anything to me comparing to the other one. During this year I have realized that this girl I fell in love with is nothing that I expected her to be. Shortly and politely said, she likes to go from a guy to a guy every day. I never kissed with her and I don't want to have anything to do with her anymore.

But, her friend which I mentioned earlier is a girl that I really want to get to know better and maybe start some kind of relationship with her. I'm sorry I didn't realized before that this one was the better choice at the time. I invited her to coffee at some bar a week ago, but the other girl, the one I was in love obviously to wanted to be the third wheel so she joined us. I was really angry but I didn't want to say anything. I know the girl I want now likes me, but I think the other one will constantly be an obstruction.

I hope I made this post clear and everybody understand what I want to say. So I'm asking you what is my next move?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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jake23 said:
Hi, I'll strive to be short. So, a year ago I have met this girl who I really liked and practically fell in love with her. She had a friend which was pretty too but she didn't mean anything to me comparing to the other one. During this year I have realized that this girl I fell in love with is nothing that I expected her to be. Shortly and politely said, she likes to go from a guy to a guy every day. I never kissed with her and I don't want to have anything to do with her anymore.

But, her friend which I mentioned earlier is a girl that I really want to get to know better and maybe start some kind of relationship with her. I'm sorry I didn't realized before that this one was the better choice at the time. I invited her to coffee at some bar a week ago, but the other girl, the one I was in love obviously to wanted to be the third wheel so she joined us. I was really angry but I didn't want to say anything. I know the girl I want now likes me, but I think the other one will constantly be an obstruction.

I hope I made this post clear and everybody understand what I want to say. So I'm asking you what is my next move?
I would invite one of my single buddies to hook up with that girl while you swoop in and take the one you're going for.
But if not, just tell her you'd rather have it between you two. If that girls really interested and that other girl gets salty, then the girl that's interested will most likely find another way to see/hang with you without her.
 

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Be direct and simple and make your intentions clear. Give yourself an opportunity to kiss on the first date. This is why movie dates are popular. Whatever you do, touch her and be calm.
 
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