"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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fashion, is it really needed?

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jericg said:
I do the exact same thing. Im all fancy with my outfit lol i sometimes add a fedora on :D

If you're not an old man, please don't wear a fedora.
I'm sorry to seem stingy, but those went out of style nearly 50 years ago, and nowadays, only tryhards wear them.

Just a fashion tip from someone who has spent a lot of time learning about fashion and culture.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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No it has to do with style. Obviously you wouldn't wear your dads jockey underwear. Why? Because their 'old fashioned.' it's the same thing with your fedora, very few teens can pull it off because it's old fashioned an we have a more hipster/jock/player/AFC/whatever style. So if it truly is your style rock the mother fvcker! If not, either change your style to match it or know it's a mistake, like wearing a plad shorts with a stripes shirt. It doesn't work, but in the end it's your style.
 

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I am pretty artistic and i know what fits and what colors go together. I wear a black one with a brown dress shirt, a black vest, dark slim jeans, and brown converse. I sometimes take the hat off, the vest off, and just have a black tie on. So Idk why people are disagreeing. It fits, and random girls even spark conversation with me once in a while.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Funny thing is, dressing up nice does boost confidence, even if you feel like sh!T that day. Well thanks, and are there other ways get girls attention? I heard somewhere that wearing something that is out of the ordinary is a good conversation starter. Idk what those things are.
 

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out of the ordinary could be anything. Could be a shirt with a picture on instead of these lame hollister or aeropostle shirts people wear or it could be jewelry like a shark tooth necklace. Anything that isnt common.
 

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In my mind, there are 2 types of fashion:

One, where clothes go in and out of fashion. I think this is ridiculous and I really do not see why people would give the slightest of fvcks.

Two, where clothes have different labels (like cool, chill, etc - defined by groups), where rules exist about what matches what, color play, and other untimely rules that see for that you look good.
 

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Eph said:
out of the ordinary could be anything. Could be a shirt with a picture on instead of these lame hollister or aeropostle shirts people wear or it could be jewelry like a shark tooth necklace. Anything that isnt common.
I personally design my own t-shirts using iron-on transfer paper. It's cheap as hell to buy some Hanes/FTL basic t-shirts and the paper. It really lets me customize my style and make it truly mine: whether it's a cool picture, pop culture thing, or a unique design.

jericg said:
Funny thing is, dressing up nice does boost confidence, even if you feel like sh!T that day. Well thanks, and are there other ways get girls attention? I heard somewhere that wearing something that is out of the ordinary is a good conversation starter. Idk what those things are.
When I make my own t-shirts and people think it's interesting, they often approach me and ask what the shirt means or where I got it. It helps me come off as different and creative. Just something that I do that works; a similar technique would work for other pieces of clothing.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Wow... They come up to you and you'd be be like, "Oh, I make my own shirts." They'd be like "What? How?" Dang :eek:
 

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jericg said:
Funny thing is, dressing up nice does boost confidence, even if you feel like sh!T that day. Well thanks, and are there other ways get girls attention? I heard somewhere that wearing something that is out of the ordinary is a good conversation starter. Idk what those things are.

Yes, what you're talking about is called pea ****ing. It means dressing differently, a cool watch, necklace, shirt, shoes, whatever. Style is huge on this, even one different item does it. He talks about wearing something different, just one thing. For example, i've got a bangin pair of sneakers that people are always asking me about, or even something as extreme as binoculars. The point is to look different from the guy next to you and set yourself apart.
 

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I have funny ideas about this "pea ****ing"... The binoculars one is very clever xD id be like, "Oh, Everyday is an adventure." Lol
 

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ladiesman217 said:
Fashion... Girls get it, most guys don't. But is it really necessary to be succesful with women? The short answer is no, but the long answer is HELL YES! Allow me to explain, how do you feel when your dressed up in a suit at a wedding? Do you feel like an AFC or like Don Juan himself? You feel like a boss, confident and ready to take the bull by its horns. Being fashionable and having style does two things. It makes you feel more confident on the inside, and it makes you look confidenent on the outside. Looking good shows that you care about how you look and present yourself, this displays confidence. Being dressed well also make you feel more confident and bass ass. The body leads the mind, and the body leads the mind. You feel good and you will show it. Feeling crappy? Sand up straight pop your shoulders back and your day will start getting better.

Being a guy we aren't expected to look good, so when you do you REALLY stand above the rest of AFC's. Girls put soo much time into looking good they know what looks good and what doesnt so when you know what your doing they notice and tell you about it! Who do you like better?
Girl A.) Sweats, no make up, hair thrown up and a baggy tshirt or
Girl B.) Jeans, uggs (if you like them), good looking make up and an interesting top.

Girl b obviously, it's the same with girls! Take a girl out to the mall, blow some money on some cool clothes, have her help you pick out some out fits. Not only are you getting quality advice but she respocts you for wanting to improve and getting help.

Look good, get noticed, and stay alpha!
For a ladies man you are asking a silly question

Men invented sense of dress, then dumped it on the women when we had better things to do.

Same with us when we invented cooking and threading.

Simple Answer: yes sense of style is extremely important. Look up different styles and find what works for you.

I suggest checking out a youtube channel called AlphaM.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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