Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Famous women make up rationalizations about why they don't want kids

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http://mic.com/articles/112910/12-women-who-had-the-best-response-to-society-s-biggest-expectation


I can buy some people having STRONG reasons not to have a kid, but I don't buy a lack of a strong reason as justification. \


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Fvck, I just fell for it. Guys, here is a brilliant lesson. The argument is set up, so you have two opinions fed to you. You either argue they're wrong, or you agree with them. That's what they want (the guys getting the 74k likes on the article) - the debate, you check off your box, and go about your day with "your" conclusion. But that's not the point. The point is that real life is much much more complicated, and more shades of grey. Some of these chicks want kids, but can't figure out how they'd handle them. Some can't get a guy to stay. Some are narcissistic to the point that they can't realize they want kids but don't know how to change. But that's THEIR issue. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO CARE OR IDENTIFY WITH EITHER SIDE. You must be adult enough to understand that there are many shades of grey, and this kind of "leading on" to make you think you've thought this out when really all you got was a quote out of context, and a few more of your brain cells die when you stop letting yourself think, and explore your own reasons for your own choices. This article is dead air, but it forces you to try and split into a group - hence once they've identified with it, some people will use it as an argument - and they've already lost.

So, fvck them, and be careful out there.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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JohnyTheArrow

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They are right.

Nothing worse than forced motherhood - nor child nor mother will enjoy it.
 

zekko

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Oxide said:
I can buy some people having STRONG reasons not to have a kid, but I don't buy a lack of a strong reason as justification.
Seems to me that unless you are strongly driven to have a child, it might not be the best idea to have one. Wouldn't you want to be strongly committed and passionate about the idea before you choose to bring one into the world?

My ex-wife always said she never wanted a child. That was one thing we agreed on. I never wanted one because I always thought raising a child would be a huge responsibility that I might not have been good at. I also was aware of the divorce rate, and while I wasn't planning on getting divorced, I knew I didn't want to be saddled with child support payments. I'm a pretty selfish person, honestly.

I think my ex-wife just never wanted to go through pregnancy and childbirth. Can't say I blame her.
 

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Its entirely up to them. Some of these types at a later date will decide the want for kids but the biological clock has passed by.
 

Jaylan

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JohnyTheArrow said:
They are right.

Nothing worse than forced motherhood - nor child nor mother will enjoy it.
This.

The world has enough people as it is anyways. I wont be having kids unless Im absolutely sure I want them and can take care of them properly (emotionally and financially)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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JohnyTheArrow said:
They are right.

Nothing worse than forced motherhood - nor child nor mother will enjoy it.
i read some where on the interent there is an option to freeze the eggs and later use them to have kids
 

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Maximummax said:
i read some where on the interent there is an option to freeze the eggs and later use them to have kids
Of course. If you are a millionaire/billionaire that option is readily there.
 
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