Feminism has changed men. In some ways for the better as males can no longer get away with abusing women, but overall we have changed for the worse. 80+ years ago I believe young men would have ‘known’ how to attract women. After all if everybody was doing it…seemingly with ease it would have been common place.
But that is no longer the case. And I believe there are several reasons for this, some of which we can’t control. I would appreciate any feedback any other thoughts and ideas I am simply curious as to what other members think and if they share any views.
FAMILY
I noticed early on that boys who had two or more older sister acted ‘different’
They would not be as eager to get stuck in, to kick a ball, to play fight, they seemed a lot more reserved as if they were not comfortable acting boisterous or getting involved. They tended to enjoy more quiet reserved things and sometimes went about the business without being part of the ‘gang’ simply sitting drawing pictures or colouring in.
Why was this? Could it be that they had little experience with other boys? Perhaps Mummy and Daddy were more interested in helping big Sally with her homework than seeing to it that young Timmy got out and about?
Perhaps having had girls they did not know how to treat a boy? Maybe they could not grasp the differences in needs and wants? By treating James as Jane they were taking away his masculinity without even knowing it.
We had two such boys in my class during my time at senior school. One was my best friend, the other distant. Both had three sisters but there was one huge different between them. ONE ONLY HAD “GIRL FRIENDS.” THE OTHER WOULDN’T TALK TO ANY CONSIDERED ATTRACTIVE. But neither was comfortable taking things to a sexual level.
Now it could be that they were simply not interested in girls at their age but I doubt it. In complete contrast the ‘ladies man’ had three older brothers. I am sure his house was piping with testosterone when he was growing up, yet I doubt his brothers would have sat him down and had ‘the chat’ I believe that he was allowed to ‘be masculine’ as he saw his older brothers acting the same, and so followed their lead. He was in effect being a man, not concerned about what others thought, tough and unafraid to fail.
Where as my dear friend had none of this, he didn’t know how to act for he had not been used to acting the man that women want. He was afraid of looking a fool, self conscious, scared of failure and easily embarrassed. Now I am not saying that this is the case for everyone but it is interesting….
Feedback welcome.....
But that is no longer the case. And I believe there are several reasons for this, some of which we can’t control. I would appreciate any feedback any other thoughts and ideas I am simply curious as to what other members think and if they share any views.
FAMILY
I noticed early on that boys who had two or more older sister acted ‘different’
They would not be as eager to get stuck in, to kick a ball, to play fight, they seemed a lot more reserved as if they were not comfortable acting boisterous or getting involved. They tended to enjoy more quiet reserved things and sometimes went about the business without being part of the ‘gang’ simply sitting drawing pictures or colouring in.
Why was this? Could it be that they had little experience with other boys? Perhaps Mummy and Daddy were more interested in helping big Sally with her homework than seeing to it that young Timmy got out and about?
Perhaps having had girls they did not know how to treat a boy? Maybe they could not grasp the differences in needs and wants? By treating James as Jane they were taking away his masculinity without even knowing it.
We had two such boys in my class during my time at senior school. One was my best friend, the other distant. Both had three sisters but there was one huge different between them. ONE ONLY HAD “GIRL FRIENDS.” THE OTHER WOULDN’T TALK TO ANY CONSIDERED ATTRACTIVE. But neither was comfortable taking things to a sexual level.
Now it could be that they were simply not interested in girls at their age but I doubt it. In complete contrast the ‘ladies man’ had three older brothers. I am sure his house was piping with testosterone when he was growing up, yet I doubt his brothers would have sat him down and had ‘the chat’ I believe that he was allowed to ‘be masculine’ as he saw his older brothers acting the same, and so followed their lead. He was in effect being a man, not concerned about what others thought, tough and unafraid to fail.
Where as my dear friend had none of this, he didn’t know how to act for he had not been used to acting the man that women want. He was afraid of looking a fool, self conscious, scared of failure and easily embarrassed. Now I am not saying that this is the case for everyone but it is interesting….
Feedback welcome.....
