Falsely accused of sexual harassment!

[Devestator]

I was recently accused of sexual harassment at work and fired. The girl, who I will call "Sandy Vagina" or "Sandy" misinterpreted a completely non-sexual action and ratted me out. After researching prison life and prison sentences, I decided that revenge against the girl and management was not worth it. It was just a $7.00/hr job, but it really pissed me off to have my character insulted like that.

May Sandy go to hell, and be sodomized and raped by Satan himself with a burning, razor-embedded dild0! I'm not Xian so that's an empty curse. Alas...

Anyway, I learned a few lessons.

1. Do not touch anyone at work, at anytime in anyway. Even to save their lives.
2. Do not date anyone from work.
3. Do not fu.ck anyone from work.
4. Do not practice DJ mind tricks at work. They will feel sexual things, and they might blame you and destroy you if they do not want to feel these things.

Oh, and false rape accusations... whole other animal. I was never the victim of that but I've heard stories. I'm a rAFC and I'm trying to overcome my fear and distrust of women. Then this happens.

 

[MrCode]

That sucks, sorry to hear it. While I think the sexual harassment laws are needed for some of the stupid horndogs out there, I think they can go overboard in preference of the females.

Don't let this make you hateful of women. There are evil, conniving b*tches out there, no doubt. There are also a lot of really evil men. The point is don't let a few of those bad apples ruin the whole sex for you. In a way that is letting them win because you will miss out on all the super sweet, kind, wonderful women that are out there. I know because I've met a lot of them.

One skill you need to learn is trusting your intuition when it quickly judges people. Most of the time your gut will be right.

 

[Alpine]

Unfortunately, mud sticks.

To get the sack when it's just her perception over yours seems an injustice. I would have thought you now have a case against them, but of course us blokes can 'just let things go'.

I heard a recent story about a bloke who committed suicide because his ex accused him of rape and later admitted it was purely to get her current boyfriend jealous.

The guy was arrested, plastered all over the local papers, physically threatened and verbally abused by members of her family etc.

He couldn't take it and topped himself.

Later his mum went round to her house to tell her what had happened to her son. Then they called the police and the police said if she went round again they would arrest the mother.

And they say women don't have power.

 

[Devestator]

Thanks for your support. What pisses me off is that whenever I hear "sexual harassment" or "rape", the first thing I now think is "Is she lying?" instead of "Let's kill the bastard" or even "Poor girl!" This girl and other false accusers ruin it for real victims.

The fact that most men will believe a girl with pouty lips over an innocent man is an AFC problem. AFCs don't know that women can be just as evil as men or don't care because they think locking up suposed rapists gets them pussi O' plenty! Men need something like the ACLU that will defend harrassment and rape defendants.

The original post was an overly angry screed unworthy of a DJ in control of his emotions. I apologize.

 

[A&F Brand Cologne]

I've been there. All that happened was my reputation was injured, but after some months the girl ended up admitting that she lied and her friends apologized to me.

it's a pain though, man. care to give us the details of what happened?

 

[Wyldfire]

For the life of me, I don't understand why a woman would have to resort to going to their boss to deal with unwanted advances/flirting. The only time a woman would have to turn to someone for assistance would be if the person was in a position of power over them. With work peers, it's so darn easy to get people to back off if you don't want their attention. Sometimes you gotta be mean, but it's not hard to get someone to leave you alone.

Whatever happened, this woman obviously felt like you violated her personal space and it made her feel uncomfortable. Yes, she handled the situation in a miserable way...but you may as well try to learn as much as you can from this experience. I can attempt to give you my take on what went wrong if you feel like posting exactly what happened.

I knew this girl who had a bad habit of doing this to guys she worked with. She was all touchy-feely with guys she was attracted to, and flirted like crazy. However, if a guy she wasn't attracted to would mimic her behavior towards other men, she would accuse him or harassing her.

 

[Devestator]

Silly stuff really. I thought she was cool and treated her like a little brother. What happened was that I touched her on the top of the head, you know in a friendly way. And I did some wrestling moves. She said to stop it because it was a metaphor for oral sex. okayyyy.... I stopped and apologized. She complained to managment and they fired me after some kangaroo "investigation." Didn't even get to face my accuser.

So she didn't so much as lie as misinterpret what I was doing. Maybe she wasn't as evil as I made her out to be. Management dropped that ball and wouldn't let us resolve things.

I shouldn't have gotten as enraged at the girl as I did. Maybe she had bad experiences with men as I did with girls that made her paranoid. Also, C&F and other tactics might have put everything I did in a sexual light. Be careful with this stuff.

Anyway, I told the district manager and he said that he would put in my record that I resigned, though he didn't side with me. Cowards without principles are useful

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by Devestator
Silly stuff really. I thought she was cool and treated her like a little brother. What happened was that I touched her on the top of the head, you know in a friendly way. And I did some wrestling moves. She said to stop it because it was a metaphor for oral sex. okayyyy.... I stopped and apologized. She complained to managment and they fired me after some kangaroo "investigation." Didn't even get to face my accuser.

So she didn't so much as lie as misinterpret what I was doing. Maybe she wasn't as evil as I made her out to be. Management dropped that ball and wouldn't let us resolve things.

I shouldn't have gotten as enraged at the girl as I did. Maybe she had bad experiences with men as I did with girls that made her paranoid. Also, C&F and other tactics might have put everything I did in a sexual light. Be careful with this stuff.

Anyway, I told the district manager and he said that he would put in my record that I resigned, though he didn't side with me. Cowards without principles are useful

Okay...so she thought you were trying to push her head towards your crotch area, then? Chances are she was with some guy who used to do that to her. So, now you know that you really shouldn't try that particular move again...especially in a work enviornment.

 

[Devestator]

Thanks. I'm erring on the side of caution now. I'm doing NO moves to girls and not touching them in any way whatsoever. Even if they flirt with me. The only way you'd get fired for that policy is if you were a porn star.

 

[cave dweller]

work????????

Hey,

You have learned a lot from this and you will never put yourself in that situation again.-----Good.


Just remember:

'Don't put your meat where you get your bread'.

cave dweller

 

[Alpine]

Wrestling moves?

Maybe that was slightly inapropriate, I'm also thinking in these circumstances it's your reaction to allegations makes all the difference.

If I was accused I be enraged, but I'd go out of my way to be calm, dismiss it and explain in no uncertain terms you would take legal action if required.

Wuss management follow the least pain principle.

 

[dearsappho]

Originally posted by Devestator
1. Do not touch anyone at work, at anytime in anyway. Even to save their lives.

I was gonna take a first aid course offered by my employer, but I turned it down for fear of being sued in case i messed up when being called upon.
Take care of yourself first...noone else will

 

[DjDreamer]

Originally posted by Devestator
1. Do not touch anyone at work, at anytime in anyway. Even to save their lives.
2. Do not date anyone from work.
3. Do not fu.ck anyone from work.
4. Do not practice DJ mind tricks at work. They will feel sexual things, and they might blame you and destroy you if they do not want to feel these things.

Yep...don't mix work with pleasure...

 

[Life-Trainee]

Sexual harrasment laws are stupid. We shouldn't have such specialized laws. If a person is getting to you to the point of discomfort that you can't work then intervention is needed. Making special cases like this stupid law is just appeasement to feminazi movement.

 

[So Many Ways]

Doing wrestling moves on a female coworker could have easily been taken the wrong way. You brought this on yourself.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

So then, you were NOT "falsely" accused - you did something that she saw as threatening and this was repeated with verbal gestures! Your employer is trying to avoid a lawsuit - you/everyone is expendable!!! Don't do this again!!!

 

[WeakMenNeverRise]

Man I feel your pain. Women have the potential to be EVIL. Its in their nature. When i was in college there was one chick who was straight loco. We had messed around before and one night she came over to my room. Long story short, she thought I was being mean to her, got all upset, and stormed out of my room crying. I was like wtf, this bytch is crazy. 30 minutes later, three big azz football players show up at my door asking for me. Now mind you, I'm about 5'8 160 and one of those guys plays for the colts now. Bastard. Anyway, they came through acting like they were gonna whip my azz big time. I had a some weights in the room so I was debating whether to just start slinging those weights, get some quick hits in, and run like hell. Luckily, my better judgement kicked in and I pretty much told them that there girl was loco and that she was making stuff up. They left it alone after that but told me to stay away from her. As a man I wanted to say FCK you but as a realist I was like OK.

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
So then, you were NOT "falsely" accused - you did something that she saw as threatening and this was repeated with verbal gestures! Your employer is trying to avoid a lawsuit - you/everyone is expendable!!! Don't do this again!!!

That's kinda harsh...

I don't think his intent was to intimidate her. He just wanted her to like him and he made a poor choice of methods to do that and she got offended. Yes, she FELT sexually harassed...but he wasn't trying to intimidate her into sexual submission or mistreating her due to a belief that she had no value as a person. He liked her and just wanted her to like him, too. He should have just said that to her right after it happened when it became apparent she got so offended.

"Falsely Accused" is the wrong term, though..."mistakenly accused" would be more fitting to this particular situation.

 

[Oxide]

blah blah blah, whatever the hell happened to human decency? Whatever happened to trying and help others? If some dude breaks his leg in front of me, i will surely try to help him.. if you are afraid of lawsuits, well you are one sad human being.


Every single job i've had i've flirted with girls i found attractive. I even had bosses joking tell me to stop hitting on younger girls... guys there is a BIG difference in flirting with a girl who LIKES YOU and DOESNT LIKE YOU. If the girl likes you, then you will get away with friendly touching and joking. If a girl doesnt, say a wrong thing and you will get canned.

On the other hand, almost every single job i've had there was a girl (or two) that would want me. At first they try to play it cool, but after awhile they just come flat out and make it very obvious. I do not say "Sorry you are not my type" ..becuase of exactly the getting canned reason. I just make them know i am seeing someone else (even if i am not..that calms them down so they dotn get pissed at you)..

never tell a girl at work that you dont like her, ESPECIALLY if she likes you.


I guess you arent very smooth my man, but yeah bosses are much quicker to believe the victim rather than the accused one.

 

[AverageFC]

She complained to managment and they fired me after some kangaroo "investigation." Didn't even get to face my accuser.

So you didnt even get a chance to defend yourself? You were just shown the door? Thats kinda ****ty.

As Deangelo says "Don't dip your pen in company ink". Dating/****ing someone from work is definitely a bad idea.

However practicing is a good one! You can practice C&F and all sorts of stuff on the chicks at work, just never act on any of it. If youre getting positive responses, youre doing it well.