false image of living

[strey]

here i am 26 years old, and feeling as though life is passing me by as sit through another day in cubicle, office space world. i constantly ponder different views as where my life would be right now, if did things a little differently. i read this forum a lot for entertainment and for words to live by. it seems that all our perceptions of reality have been shattered by fake images of what life is supposed to be like, (i.e. marriage, house, car, job, etc..). i wanted to post this in mature man, coz maybe guys my age feel the same and may feel the need to comment on this.
i know this is along the lines of a similar subject path like Fight Club and American Beauty- guy gets fed up with life, goes crazy, chooses a different way of living, etc.. . but its all true!!! there is so much bulls h it in the world, that it is hard to rise above it and shine with potential. the world now is full of crap that prohibits us from being the real men we should be. the world is one big trainwreck in slow motion. i feel like im in a rut. i have traveled everywhere, living like there is no tomorrow, and not giving a dam about the repercussions of my actions. and now, i feel sheltered, imprisoned, and not actually living, but just existing. does anyone know what i mean?
this whole website is dedicated to men who want to have the life to which they feel they deserve. it inspires me to take action. but this would involve me to say f*** the world and my obligations.
basically, this was just a rant, and i want to say more, but its all been said before. we are held back day to day because of money, society, etc.. to keep us subdued and shackled to the confines of responsibility. it means nothing. life is incredibly quick and fragile, and why i am writing this in complete boredom at work to waste time and precious minutes of my life is why i get mad.

 

[romangod]

From my humble experiences in life, I've come to the conclusion that these types of feelings you are describing are a call for you to come to terms with your "spiritual" self.

A healthy mind, body and soul are the 3 main ingredients to a healthy and fullfilling life. It seems to me that it is the "soul" that is being neglected yet is the most important factor.

This is just my opinion and take it for what it's worth. Cheers!

 

[reset]

You have to know what you want before you know if you have it yet. Now you just know what you don't want.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

You know what the best prison is?

It's the one that convinces you you're free, you eagerly choose to be in, and proudly share with others in order have them also willingly join you.

 

[KontrollerX]

I still can't believe all the feminist bullsh!t I used to buy into.

It was packaged in such a clever and insidious way that I accepted it without question it sounded so good.

Basically what society does to make us believe it so strongly is to pile on the compliments.

-Men that raise other men's offspring are heroes.
-If you commit to her you're a real man.
-You are a positive and forward thinking man if you trust her unquestionably.
-House work is sexy.

Just so much garbage it could go on for days but the packaging is laced with compliments and societal reinforcement and guys buy into it transform into AFC's and look for more compliments like the heroin addict going after their next fix.

We often talk about society as the Matrix and we are the awakened ones and that is true.

Another movie that fits the bill is "They Live" and at times when you reveal your new mindset you got from this place society reacts to you like this line from the movie "I've got one that can see!"

 

[reset]

You know what the best prison is?

It's the one that convinces you you're free, you eagerly choose to be in, and proudly share with others in order have them also willingly join you.

(...ponders)

I would love to kiss goodbye my obligations as well. Actually I don't really have many. I don't have any. Not married, no kids, no mortgage.

The matrix feels comfortable because it tells you, in advance, what's expected of you. All you have to do, is follow the rules, and you will be happy. EASY.

Up until recently, I was getting down on myself, because I was over 30, not married, and no children. The only thing that keeps me going is my dad was a player until 41 (so it's in my genes somehwhere, lol). But still, I was feeling like I was doing something WRONG.

According to whom? No I don't know what I want. You can't spend time here like I have, look at yourself and women in a new way, and not second-guess your "marriage as goal" mentality that was injected in you. And if you're going to question that, crap why not second-guess everything else.

Our safety nets of what to expect are gone. Exciting and scary at the same time.

 

[Colossus]

I have felt like this before. Not for a long time, but i used to have a cubicle job. It sucked the life right out of me.

One thing I have learned is this: If it is easy, everyone will do it. People tend to take the path of least resistance. Someone may say, "but i worked hard to get this assistant manager job at XYZ products company!" Im sure you did, but are you really happy? Isnt there something that you wanted really bad, but seemed too difficult to obtain? I bet there is. But it was too hard. You made mistakes, had some tough breaks, and decided it wasnt worth all the sacrifice and suffering.

No one ever made it to the top by coasting. Im not saying that's you, but I'll bet you settled at some point.

Back when I had that cubicle job I made a choice. I knew what I wanted to do and what I was born to become. I also knew that it would be unpleasantly hard, and that I would have to sacrifice a LOT of my life to get there; while everyone else is moving on with their career, getting married, starting families, buying boats. And the further I get the more the reality of that sets in. But if i gave up, if i said "f*ck it" and took an easier path, I would never forgive myself.

Some of the best things in life come hard. If it was easy, everyone would do it.

 

[Interceptor]

Look, there are TWO Fundamnetal Questions every man must ask himself....



WHAT DO YOU WANT??




and....




HOW ARE YOU GOING TO GET IT???

 

[iqqi]

The thing that drives me (or causes me NOT to drive myself too hard), is that life is so short. And you are going to die. And you can't take anything with you.

So I realized awhile ago that materialistic things are nowhere near as important to me as experiences. Goals are not the same as dreams, and dreams are more important to me than typical goals of a high career, a huge house, or a white picket fence.

I struggled with this big time as a teenager and young adult, because I was always an over achiever. I still question myself now.

BUT, my philosophy remains the same.

This was cemented in my head when one of my best friends died just shy of his 21st. He was pretty much a bum, and probably would have stayed one, but he was one of the most intelligent people I knew, and adventure would have found him... it did while he was here on earth. I am thankful he spent his days doing what made him happy (even though it wasn't very productive), and not what was expected of him. Seeing as he wasn't here long at all.

The flipside is I don't do a lot of planning for the future. I mostly wing it. And I know this is not good. After all, it is fine to live like there is no tomorrow... but apparently there is.

So I am working on that.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

You have to know what you want before you know if you have it yet. Now you just know what you don't want.

QFT!!!

 

[strey]

From my humble experiences in life, I've come to the conclusion that these types of feelings you are describing are a call for you to come to terms with your "spiritual" self.

A healthy mind, body and soul are the 3 main ingredients to a healthy and fullfilling life. It seems to me that it is the "soul" that is being neglected yet is the most important factor.

This is just my opinion and take it for what it's worth. Cheers!

if you guys have any more spiritual sites or anything, please let me know. right now i really need them.

 

[war-hero]

Your life sucks because you bought into the Western Propaganda Machine. The world kicks ass if you live your own life and explore it. If you sit around watching "Entourage" reruns and making car payments you deserve the hell that you created for yourself. Remember, the world is big. You have a passport. Put the two together.

 

[Interceptor]

Strey,


Where do you want to go?

What do you want to do?


How will you get there?

Who will go with you?

Are you prepared to do this alone?

Are you prepared to handle the consequences when you DO get what you want?

Are you prepared to actually BE in love and STAY in love?

Are you making women your Priority?
Or are you making your Health, Wealth, and Well Being your TOP Priority?

1; Start a heavy bodybuilding program.

2. Research EFT

3. Read the Book of Pook

4. Watch David Deangelos On Being a Man, and Deep Inner Game

5. Start seriously considering joining a Martial Art school, and training consistently

6.Go here:
http://www.hypnotica.org/privatedownloads.htm
Listen to ALL the MP3s

and here:
http://doctorpaul.net/index.html
Go to the upper right hand corner and sign up for his newsletter

7. Read this:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=141177


http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=136262

8. Go here:
http://www.innergametapping.com/

Sign up for the newsletter and the special report


You are to devote a block of time each and every day to your self care,Self Development and addressing your needs.

These are your Physical , Mental/Emotional and Spiritual

You will address the Physical with the Bodybuilding and Martial Arts.

You will address your intelect by researching the topics of Masculinity, Psychology, Sexuality,Attraction, and Self Improvement areas.

You will address your emotional by spending time in a crerative artistic atmosphere. Either by creating art or enjoying/appreciating it

You will address your Spirituality by researching simple iopics like Zen and Taoism, in addition to Yogic phiolsophies in addition to any other Faith or spiritual resource that will help you gain wisdom and perspective.Look into Tantra Yoga and Kriya Yoga if you are so inclined.
Look into Qi Gong and Tai Chi


You will also enhance your experience by dedicating one day per week to spending outdoors in a beach or park, or by a lake.
Out in the sunlight and out in the moonlight



Generally speaking, it will take roughly one to two months to fully integrate all these areas smoothly if you are dedicated tom making it a routine and integrating it inot your life.

Good luck and keep me posted

 

[joekerr31]

alright you young whipper snapper, i'll give you the best advice you could ever get - life is an experience.

that's it. that's all. no beginning, no middle, no end. at no point does it become something else. you can make it about whatever you want, for instance, some people make it about getting married. but once you achieve your 'goals' nothing changes, it continues on simply being an 'experience'.

its very very important to understand that while our lives change, that while we change, LIFE itself doesn't change.

have you heard the saying:

“We shall not cease from exploration
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive where we started
And know the place for the first time”
- ts eliot

life is just one big experience and no matter how deep into the experience you go, in the end, you will eventually realize that you have returned to the start.

put differently, the bible talks a lot about living as a child, in constant wonderment of the world around you. same principle of returning to the start, to when you were a child and everything was novel.

the reason life is so confusing and perplexing is that everything about human society is about putting things in their proper place - structure, order, rules, laws, predictability, etc.

and while all those things are necessary in order for us to be at the top of the food chain in this world, they also run polar opposite to what reality is - which is simply an experience.

stop worrying, stop judging, stop comparing - simply find your passion and find your way through life, enjoying the best you can whatever experience you find yourself in at any given point in time.

 

[LoneSilver]

I am confused.... you say you live on the beach in Puerto Vallarta then you need to change your location below your screen name it says you live in Toronto...Guess that ocean front view is so breath taking you didn't have time to change your location huh?

LoneSilver

move 2 mexico, you can live here for 2 years without working a day on about 3000 dollars.


oh and I live on the beach in Puerto Vallarta....hahaha