"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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False disqualifier, am I using it correctly?

acerazor1

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I'm texting some bird, and she rips on me for being old!! Im 21 shes about to turn 19.

So the conversation goes like this:

Her: Old joke at my expense

Me: Such a charmer, too bad your too young for me. (Shes only 2 years younger)

Her: Its okay I have a boyfriend, he's 20, too old for me too :L.

Me: No 20's okay, your just not ready to handle someone on my level yet :p ahaha!!!

Her: Oh right... dont want someone like you or age anyway. :).


How do i reply to this & have i used the disqualifier correctly or have I shot myself in the foot?

Cheers guys.

UPdate:

Me : Someone LIKE me, [her name] you cant have me either :p

Her : Ohhh right, or you. I dont need someone else :L hahaha

Me : I never said me, Jeez, behave yourself!!

Her : Thats really good then. Your terrible!


How would you guys say this went? Fail or well? She seems to have reacted well as shes still texting me even though my intentions are pretty clear :L.
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I don't know about "False disqualifiers" and all these PUA gimmicks. But I do know that you're spending way too much time texting this girl.

If you're trying to get in her pants, then make it happen or walk away. But don't spend your time feeding her attention while she goes home and f**ks her boyfriend.

As far as saying "You're too young for me." yeah, I thought that was a cool, funny way to flirt with a girl. But after that, it's just looking like two high school kids killing time in between classes.

I'm not one of those guys who says NEVER text a girl, but if you're gonna text a girl, at least make sure that it ends up somewhere where you can see if there's interest (i.e., "meet me for drinks"). Because otherwise, trust me, a girl with ZERO interest will still be happy to waste your time as you shower her with attention.
 

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Your attempt at false disqualifying didn't work. Here's why:

When you disqualify you want to do it in person OR when the woman already see's value in you.

If she only see's you as another orbiter chasing her then it comes off as cheesy and try too hard.

That's the overall vibe I got while reading your text exchange; you are trying to hard to act like your suave. In other words, it doesn't seem natural yet.

Keep working at it though, experience is the best teacher.






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Pimp-sicle said:
Your attempt at false disqualifying didn't work. Here's why:

When you disqualify you want to do it in person OR when the woman already see's value in you.

If she only see's you as another orbiter chasing her then it comes off as cheesy and try too hard.

That's the overall vibe I got while reading your text exchange; you are trying to hard to act like your suave. In other words, it doesn't seem natural yet.

Keep working at it though, experience is the best teacher.






PIMP
think this chick is far too into her bf anyway :kick:

Thanks for feedback, ill keep practising :)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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