Falling interest level.....

[BADA-BING]

I have been seeing a new chick for 4-5weeks now. We really seemed to be hitting it off. Her interest level was atleast at 95%. She would call me regularly, come over and stay with me, go out of her way to hang with me, etc etc....you get it.

Just as of late, it seems her interest level is falling. Not calling so often, not staying over and such. She might be at a 70% inteterest level now ,I'm guessing. The important thing here is that I am recognizing the actions of the falling interest level. To save whatever we have going I realize i need to maybe cut back on contact to salvage it from becoming a "lets just be friends" situation.

I haven't really had the experience of trying to raise interest level in the past or atleast I have messed it up badly before. So I am looking for advice on how to best handle this. Do I ignore phone calls and only call when she has called so any times?

What is the best way to go about this?.... How often should I make myself available to her to do anything, hang out, call her, stay over, and so on?

 

[Faca]

I have been seeing a new chick for 4-5weeks now. We really seemed to be hitting it off. Her interest level was atleast at 95%. She would call me regularly, come over and stay with me, go out of her way to hang with me, etc etc....you get it.

Just as of late, it seems her interest level is falling. Not calling so often, not staying over and such. She might be at a 70% inteterest level now ,I'm guessing. The important thing here is that I am recognizing the actions of the falling interest level. To save whatever we have going I realize i need to maybe cut back on contact to salvage it from becoming a "lets just be friends" situation.

I haven't really had the experience of trying to raise interest level in the past or atleast I have messed it up badly before. So I am looking for advice on how to best handle this. Do I ignore phone calls and only call when she has called so any times?

What is the best way to go about this?.... How often should I make myself available to her to do anything, hang out, call her, stay over, and so on?

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- faca

 

[Mind_Body_Soul]

BADA-Bing,

You've been seeing this girl for 4-5 weeks correct? I assume you've banged her. You sound like you know exactly what to do, but I'll list a few good things

1. Cut back to seeing her once MAYBE twice per week. Find things to do with all the other time (e.g. hobbies, friends, etc.) Make sure she knows that you're a busy dude.
2. Don't text message with her if you are doing that. I got into trouble with one girl by texting too much, now I NEVER text.
3. I think ignoring phone calls is stupid if you are by your phone, answer it. The point is, you should typically be busy where you aren't by your phone. Of course if she calls 40x a day, start ignoring some.
4. Only call to setup dates. Don't call to "talk". In fact, if she calls you on the phone, don't talk. Keep it brief and then get off.
5. I can't comment on what your dates/time together is like, but keep it exciting. Action dates are good. Try not to sit around either of your place and watch movies too much. This stuff can be fun, but it can get monotonous for a girl as well (I've made this mistake as well). It's easy to get comfortable around someone and stop putting as much effort into dates. DON'T DO IT.
6. Are you two "exclusive"? If not, date other girls. This will drive her interest level through the roof.

Honestly, 70% isn't that bad of a position to be in and easily salvageable. You sound like you already know what you have to do (or don't do), so get to it.

MBS