"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Falling back to an AFC

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I’ve been reading from this site for a while now, and my emergence from AFC-ness is well on its way. :) The techniques and attitudes so well (push and pull is fkn magic), and I have been getting best results I’ve had in my life.

The problem is that I have to stop my self falling for any chicks because I keep slipping back in AFC mentality when I do. If I think anything more than “damb, she’s hot” then for some reason I drop my game, it’s like my whole metal attitude changes. How can I stop this?

Meaningless booty is awesome, but I keep dropping the ball when going for relationships – help!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You already answered your own question: Don't ever think anything more than, "Damn she's hot." Just keep at it; you're on the right path, but it takes a little while.

Also, you should never get emotional over a hor.
 

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That is what i have kinda been doing, but the thing is that i wanna try for an actual GF rather than fk buddys/ONSs. I know i would be fine if i could hold my game when i start digging a chick, but i can't, so i just hold back. Now when ever a chick asks me out in that way i just make up a bullsht excuse.

Is it just a me specific problem that i have to work though over time, or is there some technique that could help me out?

PS. Anyone else find AFC-ness slipping back when they let them self dig a chick?
 

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tlot said:
That is what i have kinda been doing, but the thing is that i wanna try for an actual GF rather than fk buddys/ONSs. I know i would be fine if i could hold my game when i start digging a chick, but i can't, so i just hold back. Now when ever a chick asks me out in that way i just make up a bullsht excuse.

Is it just a me specific problem that i have to work though over time, or is there some technique that could help me out?

PS. Anyone else find AFC-ness slipping back when they let them self dig a chick?
like you couldn't believe.
 

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The trouble isn't with your game, the trouble is that you haven't fixed ANYTHING. You've went out and managed to figure out some "tricks" to get women, and you are successful with them because they WORK, but you haven't done anything to fix YOURSELF.

If you truly thought of yourself as the prize, if you truly had a ton of "options" or a busy life and things going on, and if you truly had overcome your insecurities, then you will NEVER fear falling for a girl. The reason for that is that when you are you, and that you is secure and confident, then falling for a girl won't cause you to fall back on your chump behaviors.

Understand? I suggest you take some time and look inside and see what your insecurities are and rid yourself of them.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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