loveshogun
Master Don Juan
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So, I teach a lot of things. Dance. Computer stuff. Writing. How to pick up women. How to pick up their friends, too.
And, the one thing that always stands out about people who come to me for any of these things, is that they all come looking for the same thing:
"Love Shogun, how do I get what I want without ever failing, or risking anything?"
I smile my special smile, the one that makes the ladies get all tingly in the gina, and tell them that they are not yet ready to hear what I have to say.
Ladies and gentlemen - to get good at anything, YOU MUST BE PREPARED TO FAIL.
Why is failure such a huge thing in western culture? Shoot, I grew up with crazy high expectations Asian father and Tiger Mother - I at least had an excuse to be afraid of failure.
But if you're new at this, and even if you're a vet, you should be okay with failing once in a while. Or even frequently. It happens. Sure, it's a good thing to look at what you're doing and try to improve yourself. But you shouldn't go in with the attitude "I'm going to do everything perfectly." Sh*t, man, when I plan anything, half of the plan is a contingency just in case I or someone else f*cks up.
This goes beyond the scope of pick-up, relationships. This is your life. If you get hung up on every single road block and speed bump, you're going nowhere.
So, stop analyzing every little detail of "why she let you do this but not that," and "she gave me her number but didn't wanna go out," and realize that the game isn't meant to be played perfectly.
Good luck out there, holmes.
And, the one thing that always stands out about people who come to me for any of these things, is that they all come looking for the same thing:
"Love Shogun, how do I get what I want without ever failing, or risking anything?"
I smile my special smile, the one that makes the ladies get all tingly in the gina, and tell them that they are not yet ready to hear what I have to say.
Ladies and gentlemen - to get good at anything, YOU MUST BE PREPARED TO FAIL.
Why is failure such a huge thing in western culture? Shoot, I grew up with crazy high expectations Asian father and Tiger Mother - I at least had an excuse to be afraid of failure.
But if you're new at this, and even if you're a vet, you should be okay with failing once in a while. Or even frequently. It happens. Sure, it's a good thing to look at what you're doing and try to improve yourself. But you shouldn't go in with the attitude "I'm going to do everything perfectly." Sh*t, man, when I plan anything, half of the plan is a contingency just in case I or someone else f*cks up.
This goes beyond the scope of pick-up, relationships. This is your life. If you get hung up on every single road block and speed bump, you're going nowhere.
So, stop analyzing every little detail of "why she let you do this but not that," and "she gave me her number but didn't wanna go out," and realize that the game isn't meant to be played perfectly.
Good luck out there, holmes.