Failing first relationship

[Reborn357]

Long time lurker and first time poster here. There are many details that I don't feel like rambling about right now. The facts are that I have been dating this girl for about a year and things have gone bad. I am a recent college grad working a solid 40 hr job and she is still in school at my old college.

Lately she has been testing me like crazy and saying how the relationship isn't working etc. the weird thing is that I come to see her once a week and we have sex and sleep together every time. Regardless, I feel like it's only a matter of time before she shuts me off for good. I don't really know the point of this thread. I suppose I'm just looking for a little advice or some words of encouragement as far as how to move forward.

Again, I'm a little drunk and haven't given many details at all. Ask me whatever and I'll provide more info. This is my first relationship and I know it would really hurt me to lose this girl.

 

[SoSuave666]

I don't post here often anymore, and it's even more infrequent that you caught me on a Saturday. However, the answer is clear. It follows:

You are immature. You're a recent college grad in love. You're going to feel like this girl is the 'one' for you and that you 'lost' her. Truth is, she's just a bump in your road to glory. You may not believe it, you may yearn for days past with your chick, but trust me. The sooner you realize that a girl who makes you work for her love isn't worth it, the sooner you win.

You should be more concerned about being in on a Saturday night than your girl not wanting to be with you. I find comfort in the fact that "good" women sleep with few men. So, if you fvcked her, and she's good, consider yourself a true don juan. If she isn't willing to work with you, then fvck her. She doesn't deserve you. Some nights I stay up wishing I could re-write history...but what fun would that be?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SuH2CdQDmlw

 

[Reborn357]

Thanks sosuave I needed that. Regardless of how much longer we stay together, I feel like it is time to start meeting other chicks. The problem is that I commute over an hour to work and don't get home till about seven on weekdays. Also, I know from experience that bars host pretty low quality women. I need to start acquiring plates as you guys call it, so what would be a good way to do that?

 

[BeDJ]

Reborn,

Women are everywhere, but the best thing you can do right now is focus on yourself. Become physically and mentally healthy first, it will be a long hard path. You are on the edge of your emotions and are seeking comfort. It can be likely if you meet a girl, you may try to start a relationship with her because of your vulnerbility. Just take your mind off the dating game for about a month and do hobbies that make you happy.

It might a foreign concept today, but realize who you were and what you enjoyed doing before you got into this relationship.