failing after las girlfriend

[pyros]

Hi,

I just want to vent. I had a girlfriend two years ago. The girl was very cute, natural blonde, blue eyes, big boobs, very femenine, friendly, funny, grounded, same level of studies, similar family structure, etc. The thing is I had to dump her because I found out she lied to me in a some very important things, so I could not trust her anymore. Besides she was pretty inflexible, so we always argued because of this, and she was not willing to change. After I dumped her she started to manipulate me, lie to me, string me along, hurt herself etc...
This affected me a lot, and it seems I cannot forget about her, but ok.

Well, the thing is that after one more year of her stringing me along, we finally lost contact. But the real **** comes now.
Since that moment I've tried to improve myself, when I first met her I just had started to lear some PUA material. Almost two years ago I joined salsa lessons (to increase my number of friends and to meet new girls), Ive improved my career, and I know a lof more of DJ stuff but it seems I CANNOT FIND A QUALITY GIRL. I just find weird girls, girls that flake on me, girls that seem interested but after two makeout they stop contacting me, girls that are just not AS ATTRACTIVE AS MY EX but wanna pursue a relationship with me (excuse me?). Not very cute girls that I may **** once or twice just to find out they're are way too promiscuos and weird. Girls that seem ok but they do not know basic hygiene habits, crazy girls from POF...etc.

I found one girl that seemed to fit really well with me and she was, more or less, as attractive as my ex, we hit it off etc, but she is from a different city so after a few dates she left my city to return home, so I got a bit sad and frustrated. Really, I'd rather find a quality girl than bang a crazy HB6 slut.

It seems I cant find a cute/hot girl as my ex, who is also friendly, clean, femenine, smart etc. I see my buddies dating girls that are, in my opinion, below their leagues. I see female friends of mine dating guys that are either on their same league or above, and of course girls do not have any problem finding a new boyfriend after they dump the previous or get dumped, after a few months they all find a new relationship.

Some days I think that I should stop reading DJ stuff cause if affects my sanity.

Did this happen to you? that after having a relationship with a very cute girl etc you really liked but you had to dump, now you seem to be unable to find another one?


Thanks.

 

[Purefilth]

You still have her on the pedestal.

You need to take her down.
I had that situation a while back - took me ages to get over her. Once you adopt the prize mentality and STOP comparing every girl you meet to your EX - you should gain a new outlook.

 

[VladPatton]

Just stop searching for that perfect girl, for she doesn't exist. It's all in your head. Definitely take a break and do other things with yourself. They can smell the pheromones of desperation on you from a mile away. Just chill, find something you wanna get good at, travel, whatever, and clear your mind of the frustration of finding some perfect girl.

If your former gf was as perfect as you make her out to be in your mind, you wouldn't have dumped her and you'd be happily married to her without a care in the world.