"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Failed with initial nervousness, any tips on recovery before this fades away?

holdbiu

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The back story isn't really important. She was into me due to years of myself building up respect and never giving her the slightest interest (and me dating other girls). We work together. She made this very clear she was into me (but not so clear that my method of thinking a month ago could be certain, but the signs were there).

We spoke a few times, joked, she would go out of her way to joking with me. It came to a boiling point when we got the oppertunity to hang out outside by pure chance, I blew it, didn't escalate and moved to escape out of being a pure wuss.

Following this I took 2 weeks to regroup and I made a move, I got her phone number with the intention of asking her out, she gave it to me without worry. However I texted her a few times and didn't get to the point, she ignored two messages in a row which were pretty clear, and we once again fell into silence for 2 weeks.

Now since then she will intiiate conversation with me very friendlyish, she also always looks to see if i'm looking at her. But I have shown clear fear and that is the problem. Most of my above actions have been done with quite alot of nervousness and lack of confidence and I destroyed what I spent 2 years (unknowingly) building. She could tell I was super nervous too.

The thing is, she still seems somewhat interested, she goes out of her way to speak to me, she still always looks at me to see if i'm looking at her... But i'm not sure what I can do to get anywhere. I've had a few conversations with her and whenever I joke or tease her she responds with very positive emotions.

Lurking this forum has taught me absurd amounts and every time I have contact with her i'm getting better and better at doing what I used to do naturally (oh the irony). How would you guys proceed?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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FairShake

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Nervousness shouldn't be a barrier to either you trying for the azz or her giving it up (if her interest level is high).

Don't let it be a barrier and give it at least one more shot. You have absolutely nothing to lose.
 

Super Hero

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I want you to try this, cuz it works on
some weird level I don't understand.

Just start seeing yourself as a guy who is
always around hot women, and is super
comfortable, and super cool in the craziest
situations.

Wake up every day, and think about how
great you are, and all of the possibilities
that await you.


This girl walked up to me today and said "I hate
it because I can;t **** my guy friends, because
everyone will think I'm a slut."

"Well, it's a good thing we're not friends then"

Lol. OK, enough. Just give this mindset a go,
and get back to me with the results.
Try different things, find new "pockets" of girls around
your city or town, etc.
 
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