Failed to escalate to sex again!

[wonderer]

Couple of weeks ago I posted about a girl I failed to escalate to sex with. Just ended up spooning...

I saw this girl again who is a friend of mine and we all went out for a night out. I was getting with her all night, kissing her neck, putting her hand on my crotch. We were in a different city so we went back to a mate of ours, I couldn't escalate here as me and her slept on the floor with our friend and someone else in the bed all in the same room.

The next day in the morning everyone had left and it was just me and her, I started tickling her and managed to get on top of her, I was kissing her and tried to escalate. My hands were in her hands and I couldn't think quick enough to start wandering them.

After kissing her twice in this position she said "get off now I need to pack!"

Dont know what else I could've done to escalate! I really wanted to say to her something like "I really wanna rip your fuking clothes off" whilst making out on top of her would this sort of approach work?

 

[Mr Wright]

Your job is to move things forward and it's her job to hold things back. Of course she's going to say something like that but you ignore it and keep making out with her, it's only once she becomes really insistent that you know that you have to stop. Don't let her lead in that situation, take control.

 

[wonderer]

I guess I shouldnt have stopped after the first bit of resistance.

Anyone any comments on the dirty talk part? When getting with her and saying something like "I wanna rip your clothes off" is this a good or bad move?

 

[MtnMan]

if you can say it with confidence, go for it. Don't do it without 100% commitment though, i prefer to just make advances physically.

 

[Mike32ct]

There is nothing more you could have done.

"Get off me now" is a VERY clear NO. It's not token resistance IMO.

 

[Don-Kong]

There is nothing more you could have done.

"Get off me now" is a VERY clear NO. It's not token resistance IMO.

Yup, agreed.

Gotta respect emotional state when escalating.

Heating things up first mentally is best. Starting off cold is difficult. Unless you know for certain she is bang horny. Then you only need the spark to start the fire and give it a good hard poke! :yes:

 

[Mike32ct]

It was just unfortunate timing and logistics. There were people in the room at night when she was probably DTF. By morning, she cooled off, and that's that. It's not your fault.

Soloman coined a term called the "Club High." This is the fun, horny, party vibe she has from Friday or Saturday night. But it often disappears the next morning. That's what happened here. While next morning lays can and do happen, you can't depend on them.

 

[wonderer]

There is nothing more you could have done.

"Get off me now" is a VERY clear NO. It's not token resistance IMO.

She didnt say get off now, she said get off I need to pack! It was in a soft tone and she had a little smirk on her face.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Dude, real talk - you weren't in a place where she'd feel comfortable doing it. I can't even begin to tell you how many times I've left my apartment, been out for a while, then realized I forgot something at home and had to go back and get it. So, from her perspective, any one of the people staying at that place could walk in on you two having sex. No bueno, especially if she's modest or... well, really, most people wouldn't want to have that happen. So, in this case, it wouldn't have mattered what you said due to the location. Next time, if you have the money, spring for a hotel - otherwise, get what you can get, but don't assume she'll be comfortable in that situation trying to bang you.

 

[Peterpack]

If there is one strength in my game, it's sexual escalation. Basically just about ever girl who steps through the front door into my house, i've ****ed. I actually thought about it and i think since i built my new house 2 years ago, the only females who have been there who i haven't ****ed have been my mum, my sister and my cleaner

as a starting point it does help having a nice house that i own outright and is really nicely furnished and decorated. Girls feel more comfortable in a nice environment.

Now as for the sexual escalation. There are two things i have never had a girl turn down from me, a massage and oral pleasure. And if you can do these two things really well, trust me, the escalation to sex is like counting to three.

I have actually said to girls at my house "i'd like to give you oral pleasure" and most girls love that. They don't think of oral pleasure as intimate as sex. You get down there, you munch and lick like your life depends on it, once you know she is squirming towards orgasm, you escalate to sex quite easily.

If you feel starting off with a massage is more appropriate, again if you do that right it's not hard to escalate. I have my moves and patter down for this, you have to figure out what works for you.

 

[devilkingx2]

She didnt say get off now, she said get off I need to pack! It was in a soft tone and she had a little smirk on her face.

oh.... then keep going.

if she sounds/gets serious/stern THEN you stop