"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Aerospace

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First off, let me compliment you guys for the outstanding work on the forum architecture...

As for my problem.

This morning I had my first date with a girl I was introduced to (online) by a friend. We never had a chance to meet except for today, even though she asked me for a meeting three times since I knew her. There's always been kind of a particular feeling between us: she keeps on telling me I'm special, that she never met somebody like me, that I'm the sweetest person alive, and all the predictable things girls say to guys. Today I took her hand, kissed it and was a perfect gentleman all the time. Used ****y and Funny, made her talk about herself without never loosing eye contact a second. She blushed big time. Then I took her to her bus stop. I asked her to take my hand and stand beside me. She's very shy, so I could feel her little hand tremble a bit. When we had to part, I tried David De Angelo's Kiss Test: i caressed her hair, and she smiled, blushed and looked at me with a sweet expression. I went in for the kiss, but she rapidly gave me a peck on my cheeks. I was a bit confused, and felt a bit ashamed. I left her on her bus, and sent her a short message:

"Goodbye, shy girl! I hope we'll manage another rendez-vous soon!"

She told me: "Thank you, you're very kind. Thanks for being with me and for everything a kiss."

I answered: "Yeah, a kiss from me too, an innocent peck on your red cheeks!"

...did I spoil it? My girl friend Lo told me that she had the same experience with her now 3-months-old-affair. She refused his first two kiss attempts, and now they're just fine.

Make me know how to behave next time I meet her. I'm pretending that it just did not happen. :up:
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Shezz said:
I wouldnt worry about it mate, sounds like you had a great time and had her in the palm of your hand. However - you say that she was shy, remember not all girls are the same - some will outright want to fuck you on the first date, some will be even apprehensive to touch - but guaranteed, the more you get to know her and the closer you get - that kiss will come. Just forget it ever happened and carry on as normal when you get together again. Make sure you have fun, action dates! Bowling, Ice Skating etc - and let her associate that fun with you!

Good Work

Sarge On...

/Signed.

She seems intrested. Just taking it a little slower. Some girls like it that way. Action date is def best next. See how it goes.
 

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Yo, Shezz!

Hey Jody... about your signature: I've been to Alton Towers, once, during a english studying vacation in Wales! F*cking awesome... the teacher told us: avoid 'The Nemesis' and 'Jigsaw'... these were the first two game I tried. And the Oblivion... oh my God... :rockon:
 

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Aerospace,

Think of it this way... do you want her to kiss you if she is not ready to kiss you yet???

If she is shy, give her some more time. You did well. Take her out again, and just let things flow naturally.

If by the 3rd date you havent kissed her yet, then use some "kissing" routines on her.

ciao
 
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