jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
A man who builds a family becomes a protector and a provider. A woman tends to stay loyal as long as she doesn’t see better options, financially or sexually or doesn't get involved in "opportunities". Many women, especially when bored and their needs are already met, can be tempted. That’s often when the risk of infidelity increases.
Paradoxically, in toxic relationships where a woman is more emotionally invested, cheating tends to happen less often becasue she’s focused on manipulating the man to extract resources. If he gives little, she stays hooked on trying to make things work, to bring the “family project” to life.
Healthy couples, on the other hand, are better at resisting primal instincts. They build stronger bonds, spend more time together, and get bored less easily. But in the end, one truth remains: we all respond to biological instincts, some more, some less.
So, what’s the point?
If you can, build a family. Don’t obsess over whether she might cheat or get bored. Don’t fall into strategies or manipulation. If she disrespects you, move on. You could end up parenting her while living with someone else, and that’s life, and that’s okay. Work on yourself, but don’t wait to be perfect. Make mistakes, learn, grow. Recognize red flags, but don’t chase perfection. If you can maintain a relationship for 5, 10 years and raise a child, you’ve done a lot. You became a parent. And if it’s not "forever togheter", you can still enjoy future relationships and new trials.
With that said, as I approach 30, I’ve come to realize that if you want to play this game, which is "uncertain" you must have something that is "certain" and "secure. So I thought there could be 3 core elements for it, that should never be compromised. They make up your inner temple, a space only you can enter.
Also, we have to adjust them accordingly to today "modern society", and to your "life philosophy":
Health: mental and physical strength.
Finances: enough to support yourself and a family, even after a breakup.
Home: a place of your own, where you are truly independent.
If you have these three things, everything else around you is secondary.
And if an earthquake hits, your temple still stands.
Everything else may collapse, but it can be rebuilt, by the person who stayed safe inside that temple.
This is why a man really struggle when He have no career path, finances and a place to live.
How has your perspective changed over time? I’d love to hear your thoughts.
Paradoxically, in toxic relationships where a woman is more emotionally invested, cheating tends to happen less often becasue she’s focused on manipulating the man to extract resources. If he gives little, she stays hooked on trying to make things work, to bring the “family project” to life.
Healthy couples, on the other hand, are better at resisting primal instincts. They build stronger bonds, spend more time together, and get bored less easily. But in the end, one truth remains: we all respond to biological instincts, some more, some less.
So, what’s the point?
If you can, build a family. Don’t obsess over whether she might cheat or get bored. Don’t fall into strategies or manipulation. If she disrespects you, move on. You could end up parenting her while living with someone else, and that’s life, and that’s okay. Work on yourself, but don’t wait to be perfect. Make mistakes, learn, grow. Recognize red flags, but don’t chase perfection. If you can maintain a relationship for 5, 10 years and raise a child, you’ve done a lot. You became a parent. And if it’s not "forever togheter", you can still enjoy future relationships and new trials.
With that said, as I approach 30, I’ve come to realize that if you want to play this game, which is "uncertain" you must have something that is "certain" and "secure. So I thought there could be 3 core elements for it, that should never be compromised. They make up your inner temple, a space only you can enter.
Also, we have to adjust them accordingly to today "modern society", and to your "life philosophy":
Health: mental and physical strength.
Finances: enough to support yourself and a family, even after a breakup.
Home: a place of your own, where you are truly independent.
If you have these three things, everything else around you is secondary.
And if an earthquake hits, your temple still stands.
Everything else may collapse, but it can be rebuilt, by the person who stayed safe inside that temple.
This is why a man really struggle when He have no career path, finances and a place to live.
How has your perspective changed over time? I’d love to hear your thoughts.
