"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Facing lots of health problems - Depressed/Lost

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Suddenly feeling all depressed and lost right now. Just a random wave stuck me, I am a confused person with no direction in my life.
I wanted to improve this PUA stuff but progress is way to slow for me. Over the last 6 months i've improved my social skills so much but its bringing me nothing. I still cannot just get out there and talk to anyone I want and be this 'alpha'

I am sure someone has been through a similar situation and can help me out.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You remind me of myself. It seems progress is a lot slower at first.

Just remember that depression isn't real. It's all in your head. The sooner you realize that you are making yourself feel like sh1t by focusing on the negative and start only thinking positive, the better off you'll be. Make the firm decision to let the negative energy go.

It would definitely help to have an idea of what your goals are too. Very important for progress.
 
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Yup. Depression comes and goes.

scudge is right, it is all in your head. What made this week worse than last week, when you weren't feeling this bad?

I'm at a much better place in terms of my skills than I was 2 years ago. Sophomore year I had awful depression. I buried myself in ceramics, my art, and I wasn't even happy with the things I was making. Now that I can see my pieces now, and the progress I made, it amazes me what time can do.

In terms of women, I'm still not at a place where I'm content, but that's GOOD. You'll have your entire life to be good with women, and once you reach a certain age you'll tire of it, and settle down. Learning how is the hardest stage of any part of your life, especially this one. I'm sorry that it's weighing on you. But one day, you'll know how it works, and it won't hurt, but something else might.

Remember, as with all things, even positives, this too will pass.

One day down the line, you'll wake up, see where you are, and say "Wow. I earned this."
 
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Do you weightlift? If you don't, you should. It definitely helps my mood, helps me think clearly.

Find a goal. Keep to it.
 
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