"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Facial Exercises

thefonz

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This is kind of a weird question

I'm looking to take up some kind of daily facial muscle exercise to become a friendlier more 'expressive' person in my daily life. I've fallen into routines since I work from 10am to 11pm at night 5 days a week. I woman came up to me and told me at my job "You know, you should definitely smile more. A person as handsome as yourself should not walk around looking so serious." This really embarrased me. I'm looking for maybe some kind of a streching exercise or something that will loosen me up aswell as strengthen the muscles. Another consequence of this constant facial tension is mumbling when I talk cus my mouth is so stiff

One exercise I'm starting is when a hold a huge smile for 5 minutes every morning. Can anyone recommend any other ones.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sean O

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There aren't really any exercises for your face, man... lol. Except for isometric ones, I suppose. But you know what? I think a good facial massage will loosen you up more than having a "muscular" smile will.

One more thing. The problem may not be physical at all; it might just be that you don't have as friendly and cheery a mindset as you could. Try to have more fun in your daily routine and find laugher in small things! 'Cause people can always tell when you're faking a smile, bro.
 

Cash

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I heard about facial Exercise years ago on some female TV program.

Google it. loads should come up.
 

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I heard from this news channel that if you chew a lot of gums(like maybe more than 5 at once i guess), your jaw will look stronger and slimmer.
 

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You don't need a workout to smile more. It's called be happy. Learn to enjoy stuff. SMILE

It's not tough.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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qweretyuiopas

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Look up stuff by Jack Lalanne. I used to watch his show on ESPN Classic everyday, he give great exercises, and he also has done facial exercises, that I do and they help. They are kinda hard to describe without you seeing them so I suggest you try and find some Jack Lalanne clips. If you cant find them, tell me and I'll try my best to type out some descriptions for you.

Although like Staz said you don't need an exercise to smile more, just make your life better and be happy and it will come naturally.
 

thefonz

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Sean O said:
One more thing. The problem may not be physical at all; it might just be that you don't have as friendly and cheery a mindset as you could. Try to have more fun in your daily routine and find laugher in small things! 'Cause people can always tell when you're faking a smile, bro.
I know. But I was also thinking maybe I could affect my mood from this angle. Like how they tell you improving your body language improves your overall sense of self. I don't consider myself 'faking' anything because a happy person is what I truly want to be.

Skilla Staz said:
You don't need a workout to smile more. It's called be happy. Learn to enjoy stuff. SMILE

It's not tough.
Like I said, I'm already doing that.

qweretyuiopas said:
Look up stuff by Jack Lalanne. I used to watch his show on ESPN Classic everyday, he give great exercises, and he also has done facial exercises, that I do and they help. They are kinda hard to describe without you seeing them so I suggest you try and find some Jack Lalanne clips. If you cant find them, tell me and I'll try my best to type out some descriptions for you.
thanks!
 
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