"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Facebooking! Happy Bday Or No?

Canadiandon

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Alright so here is the deal I got this one girl that I am working on a really conservative Korean gyal, and she has mega amounts of men working on her cause she is hot! It's her birthday and she had guys wishing her happy birthday as soon as her birthday hit 12:01am on facebook hahaha! And other guys racing to say Happy bday to her on facebook before anyone else it's really funny to see how desperate these guys are. Facebook is a whole new different way of playing your game so in other words I will say happy bday to her but I will call her and not facebook her to say it. How do you guys handle massive amounts of guys facebooking your potential gyal?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Jumpman23

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facebook is not going to make or break your chances w/ this girl, but "face" time can, need real time, not just online time. She has a lot of guy pursuers, just means there is competition, can't allow that to deter you.
To me saying merely Happy Bday on facebook is insignificant.
 
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Canadiandon said:
How do you guys handle massive amounts of guys facebooking your potential gyal?

I don't handle that because I don't give a flying huge bag of stinky 312739 year old sh1t!

Lol seriously though, it doesn't matter if all those guys are saying happy birthday to her, and if people are seriously "rushing" to say happy birthday, then that's just sad. (as long as it's not you)

This shouldn't change your game at all, if anything I'd call and tell her something like, "I told everybody who told you happy birthday that you were really turning 12" or something fun and dumb like that.

Be fun and playful, this shouldn't deter you from your modus operandi.
 

In Motion

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Its not like she is even going to read all the congratulations. Its just face.
Do you think anyone cares when someone says: Happy birthday In Motion <3

Its just a standard greeting.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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If this is a girl who you're genuwinely interested in and trying to game, a short 2 minute phone call will come off as a more sincere and thoughtful gesture. However in addition, if you want to do the facebook birthday wish the right way...

A lot of clowns will be sure to post their wall message right after the stroke of midnight, to be the first guy or whatever their desperate AFC logic tells them. During the course of the day, the average facebook HB7-10 will have a 2 or 3 pages of happy "bdays". In additon to calling, I usually wait til late that night, or early the next day and post something like "Hope ya had a great night tonight/last night". By being the most recent, your post will stay on the main page as the others get bumped and it'll be the first she sees when she logs on.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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Well, like you said call her and wish her a happy bday. Maybe, find out if she is having a party you can attend. As for the other guys. Remain cool. Don't be needy and desperate for attention like the others. Just be the better catch.
 

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I don't have facebook, but if I did I wouldn't spend time on it, but if I did I would probably just say "hey happy bday."

again like someone said, your online game isn't going to make or b reak you .... talk to her in person and soon you'll be banging her while those chumps are still banging out c&f on their keyboard
 

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try to do something w/her on her bday. make it a date. if she's hanging out w/other freinds try to get in on it if she invites you. otherwise keep living ur life
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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