facebook pick up gone wrong - can I recover?

[big weezy]

I tried picking up this facebook girl, it started off well but she's so laid back and I'm the opposite ie impatient and full on (not a problem when the HB replies straight away but with ones who take half a day to reply it shows)

When she messaged me yesterday replying to my question about height I made the error of replying immediately (shows I'm too available and full on) then I followed up with a couple more messages.

I sent her one today asking if she had a bf and that's the reason she isn't enthusiastic about my date idea.

She msg'd back saying 'you are coming across so full on, bombarding me with so many questions, I haven't even had a chance to respond and you're following up with more.'

I sent back (maybe was a mistake): 'sorry I have a tendecy to do that..I generally write a lot and am impatient. Won't happen from now on. I can see you're more laid back about things.'

She sends back 'you need to chill'

I didn't reply. Should I? Is this over? I suspect she had IL in me thought I was good looking and interesting but I'm so impatient that it must have put her off

Normally I can get the numbers immediately if they reply straight away ie like an instant messenger conversation but she's treating it like an email convo so takes hours and hours to respond I can't make any headway.

I thought originally she was a bimbo and attention wh0re but she actually has a very good job (still might be an attention wh0re tho) but is so laid back I get annoyed with how long she takes to reply. Maybe the problem is I'm so accustomed to women who reply back straight away I'm not used to normal girls who are busy and have a life and not surgically attached to her ohone.

It's annoying cos this one will respond hours later, then I send back a reply I can see she's seen it immediately after I sent It yet does not reply for hours and hours later. I know the issue is with me I need to be more patient otherewise I'll only attract attention wh0res who reply for immediate gratification.

Is this one over or should I try again in a few days and see if she responds? I have to be on my guard now she'll be testing me. I already shown my true self.

 

[Tictac]

If she's not enthusiastic on Messenger - back off.

 

[mangotot]

It does not matter if you **** up, you can try again and again since there are endless chicks on Facebook.6 All in the comfort of your home.

 

[christoff522]

I tried picking up this facebook girl, it started off well but she's so laid back and I'm the opposite ie impatient and full on (not a problem when the HB replies straight away but with ones who take half a day to reply it shows)

She probably knows her own mind. If a girl replies extremely quick it means shes a bit crazy. Everyone takes their time. But its quality not speed that matters

When she messaged me yesterday replying to my question about height I made the error of replying immediately (shows I'm too available and full on) then I followed up with a couple more messages.

Nothing wrong with replying immediately, sometimes you will sometimes you won't. If you're doing it ALL THE TIME, then theres the issue.

I sent her one today asking if she had a bf and that's the reason she isn't enthusiastic about my date idea.

Why are you asking her that? just facebook her on the sly if you want to know. Also how old are you. If she's single she'd let you know through what she says and how she says it. Just build up rapport and get to know her - theres no rush.

She msg'd back saying 'you are coming across so full on, bombarding me with so many questions, I haven't even had a chance to respond and you're following up with more.'

You probably don't have much experience. If that shows you appear 'creepy'. Just cool down a bit. You can actually recover from this, don't speak to her for a very long time..months.

I sent back (maybe was a mistake): 'sorry I have a tendecy to do that..I generally write a lot and am impatient. Won't happen from now on. I can see you're more laid back about things.'

You apologised, that shows weakness. You should have made a joke or something along the lines of "Just had a new keyboard, just trying it out and you're the lucky lady ". You have to remember that you're THE MAN. If she doesn't like it theres plenty of girls out there who might do. Now I'm not saying that bombarding a girl with messages is a good thing because it isn't. But don't yield and apologise. You basically just castrated yourself there and let her be the boss.

She sends back 'you need to chill'

No don't reply. You don't NEED to do anything. She needs to stfu. Honestly I see her perspective, and she is right. But still..what a ****.

I didn't reply. Should I? Is this over? I suspect she had IL in me thought I was good looking and interesting but I'm so impatient that it must have put her off

Do not reply. If you honestly want anything from her you need to leave it for a while let things cool down. If shes interested she may send you a message. But just ignoring her for a bit may present the idea that you're pre-selected, i.e. other girls are interested or that you're not as interested as she thought. So give it a while and see what happens.

Normally I can get the numbers immediately if they reply straight away ie like an instant messenger conversation but she's treating it like an email convo so takes hours and hours to respond I can't make any headway.

Of course you can make headway, you just need to re-organize for the format.

I thought originally she was a bimbo and attention wh0re but she actually has a very good job (still might be an attention wh0re tho) but is so laid back I get annoyed with how long she takes to reply. Maybe the problem is I'm so accustomed to women who reply back straight away I'm not used to normal girls who are busy and have a life and not surgically attached to her ohone.

It's annoying cos this one will respond hours later, then I send back a reply I can see she's seen it immediately after I sent It yet does not reply for hours and hours later. I know the issue is with me I need to be more patient otherewise I'll only attract attention wh0res who reply for immediate gratification.

Is this one over or should I try again in a few days and see if she responds? I have to be on my guard now she'll be testing me. I already shown my true self.[/QUOTE]

 

[Bingo-Player]

I sent her one today asking if she had a bf and that's the reason she isn't enthusiastic about my date idea.

She msg'd back saying 'you are coming across so full on, bombarding me with so many questions, I haven't even had a chance to respond and you're following up with more.'

I sent back (maybe was a mistake): 'sorry I have a tendecy to do that..I generally write a lot and am impatient. Won't happen from now on. I can see you're more laid back about things.'

She sends back 'you need to chill'

il be as nice as i possibly can

this conversation absolutely wreaks of weakness you might swell of handed your balls on a sliver platter too her

your not supposed to care if she's enthusiastic about your date idea if she dosent like it she can make a suggestion or fvck off , you aint jumping through hoops for no bitach

right fvck this chick for the time being crack on with some others

at the end of the month just drop her a simple message (with absolutely no expectation of a reply) saying

"ok ive chilled "

 

[Çharismo]

Let me lay something out for you.

This is coming from a good looking guy who has a "great" facebook profile. I crafted it as uniquely as possible...pictures of me modeling, baby pictures, traveling etc. I've done all types of experiments on Facebook and the thing I'm going to tell you and anyone else reading this is to never use facebook to ask a woman out. You can add random people as friends and if they accept that's cool but leave it at that. You can have short conversations with women and that's as far as you will get. Don't ask women out over facebook.

Do it in person.

Whether she has low interest level or not you will only find out if you have the balls to ask her out face to face in person.

--Gentle persistence is the key --

The way you have even approached this female reeks of desperation. You are too eager. Just be cool, calm, and collected. Take your time and back off for a little bit. She is just another girl out of the many. She is even telling you to chill out which is another red flag. Learn to slow down a little bit and take things slowly.

Facebook, twitter, instagram are all bullsh!t. It's all a ploy to get attention that most people lack so don't get sucked into it. This is what most people do on facebook....they update there "status's" everyday, post pictures of food, there kids, getting married, random bullsh!t and videos. Again never ask anyone out over facebook ever again. I have a facebook account as well just to have an online presence but what I'm doing now is trying to max out my friends list and all I use it for is to watch videos that people post up and stay up to date with what's hip or what are the new trends that everyone is following for example :- ALS Ice bucket challenge. It's a good way to stay in tune with what's going on in the world but other than that it serves no purpose.

Don't waste your time. :rockon:

 

[Ronaldo7]

Seems like she has a life... and you need to get one as well.

 

[latinnova]

Let me lay something out for you.

This is coming from a good looking guy who has a "great" facebook profile. I crafted it as uniquely as possible...pictures of me modeling, baby pictures, traveling etc. I've done all types of experiments on Facebook and the thing I'm going to tell you and anyone else reading this is to never use facebook to ask a woman out. You can add random people as friends and if they accept that's cool but leave it at that. You can have short conversations with women and that's as far as you will get. Don't ask women out over facebook.

Do it in person.

Whether she has low interest level or not you will only find out if you have the balls to ask her out face to face in person.

--Gentle persistence is the key --

The way you have even approached this female reeks of desperation. You are too eager. Just be cool, calm, and collected. Take your time and back off for a little bit. She is just another girl out of the many. She is even telling you to chill out which is another red flag. Learn to slow down a little bit and take things slowly.

Facebook, twitter, instagram are all bullsh!t. It's all a ploy to get attention that most people lack so don't get sucked into it. This is what most people do on facebook....they update there "status's" everyday, post pictures of food, there kids, getting married, random bullsh!t and videos. Again never ask anyone out over facebook ever again. I have a facebook account as well just to have an online presence but what I'm doing now is trying to max out my friends list and all I use it for is to watch videos that people post up and stay up to date with what's hip or what are the new trends that everyone is following for example :- ALS Ice bucket challenge. It's a good way to stay in tune with what's going on in the world but other than that it serves no purpose.

Don't waste your time. :rockon:

^^^^^^^^ He speaks the truth brother. The only way I have had facebook hookups are when old GF contact me and asked me to meet up. That's it. But.... it's not worth having to read up on all the narcissistic newsfeeds and look at all the self obsessed selfies everyone posts. I deleted FB and found I have time to invest in other things and don't miss knowing that someone went to the dentist and got a cavity for the first time.? Seriously, how does information like that benefit my life?

Go talk to woman in real life, it works so much better. Plus, if you talk oN FB then you have less stuff to talk about in person. You want to be able to do everything in person. I text general stuff to girls. If they ask "When are we meeting up?" I will reply " So and so place at so and so time, see you there.." and that's it.