"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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FaceBook Opener

SyncBoss

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I met this girl a few weeks ago at school while hanging out with one of my friends. We talked for a bit, and then I had to leave because I had class. I added her on FaceBook recently and I was going to message her.

How's this for an opener?:
Hey, is this the girl with the cute smile who's friends with J?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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RiceandChicken

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Well, that's not bad of an opener. I don't know about the cute smile thing, just a question to you, don't you think it's a little early to be complimenting her?

I'd say go for something funny ya know. Just to ease things up. Or if you think you're more of a risk taker, go for something edgy. You could get some good Facebook practice out of this.

I do have one other question, are you trying to pursue something here with her? Or are you just going to use her for practice?
 

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I'm pursuing this girl, I was going to use FaceBook to get her number (since I don't get any chance to see her during the day), and then get a day 2 from text game. But I see every opportunity as practice.

I wouldn't know when the 'right' time is to compliment her. I'm still learning (soaking up as much information as possible). Tell me what you think, we've only had one short conversation with her, this would only be my second interaction with her.
 

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Well, good luck on pursuing Her. Remember, as always, don't get attached and don't get desperate. And you have a good attitude, always practice when you get the chance.
Don't compliment her now. She is probably used to compliments by now from other guys. Separate your self from them. It'll get her wondering why you haven't showered her with compliments yet.
Keep on doing your thing, I'm interested in how this goes, keep us updated.
GO HARD.
 

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So she used to go to this school that my friend went to (and my friend used to tell me jokes about the girls there and how they were evil and city throat lmao). So I opened like this:
"Hey, I see you went to [her old school]. Is it try what they say about the girls there?"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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RiceandChicken

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Messed up my post lol. Anyways, good opener for your case. I assume its just something to break the ice between you and her right?
 

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Yeah, something quick and funny that would simply get us acquainted.
 

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Good thinking man. Keep the texting/Facebook messaging short and sweet. The main thing is to get her comfortable, then if you feel like its right: ask her out.
 
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