"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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facebook girl won't commit straight away to date tomorrow, how to play it?

drift king

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there's this HB i'm trying to meet up with from facebook and she won't commit to the time exactly.. im not sure if i played it right. i framed it that i was out these next 2 days and can only do between a certain time block of time between 8-10pm on both nights cos i got parties to go to afterwards..

when i called her she says she has a job tomorrow night which she hasn't decided if she's going to take yet and if she doesn't then we can meet, sounds flakey, she told me to call her tomorrow and she'll know then, and if she isn't working then we can meet. should she been the 1 to call me?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ignue121_2

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Id play it confident and cool the rest of the way. Heck, actually I'd blow her off. Tell her you have other plans.

Give her one more shot, if she flakes next time. NEXT
 

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drift king said:
she told me to call her tomorrow and she'll know then
If you make this call you're her girlfriend.

You should have never asked her anything. You tell her you're going to do blah, blah ,blah and if she wants to hang with you great. If not, there are other's who do.

You've fallen into supplication for her time and commitment. Get out of it. Send her a message saying something to this effect:

"You know what sweetheart? I can't make it. I've given you an opportunity to come out and obviously you're busy. I accept that. I'm busy too. Someone else has accepted so I'm taking her this time. Once you get a free minute you know where to find me. Hope your day's a good one."

Always have something or someone else to do.
 

dirtysouth

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I would play it soft. Call her and don't even mention hanging out. At the end of the call (keep it brief), tell her you're late and you have to get going.

I can bet she'll be the one asking for the next date.
 

jmeh13

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drift king said:
i'm trying to meet up with from facebook QUOTE]

Dude trust me your wasting time and energy on this. Go out and meet a girl in person... not on facebook. They will respect you and fvck you a lot more.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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