"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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am i right in thinking it's a bad idea to try and create attraction thru fb & texting? I can be really smooth for maybe the first twenty texts and then it just goes downhill from there... i start being an ******* or just plain not funny. btw this is with some girl i only met once.
edit: also i think a problem is that i took pook's advice of embracing sexuality too far...almost everything i say comes out flirtatious
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Most of what I say now naturally has a sexual meaning to it, so it's not too far I believe, although you might get some girls that are creeped out.

No, you can't really spark anything otherr than neediness through texting + facebook. If she is not needy or a bf, then she will not experience that 'infatuation'.
 

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yup that neediness has probably sunk in, I'm not getting a reply to my last message after a day..
should i just call it off? ill see this chick in like 2 months maybe i can try again then. i was gonna ask her to drink some coffe with me.
 

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i handled it well. for anyone reading this. go balls deep & have no regrets. worked for me.
 

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asianbboy said:
i handled it well. for anyone reading this. go balls deep & have no regrets. worked for me.
...so what happened...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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well i'll be honest she said she was busy but she also planned another date to meet up on... to which i said no of course, i've got a practice session that day and other stuff. problem is i've got a whole week ahead of me before i'm free again, should i text her in that time or just save texting to plan the next date? will she still be attracted after that period?
 

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I dunno about this specific girl bro, but in general, girls can have as many guys as they want facebook chatting or texting them. You're only special if you see her in person and make it real. Don't settle for mentally masturbating to lines of text.
 

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also, facebook game in particular is very different, but I'm not talking about the mssgs you send, I'm talking about the way you present yourself over the internet.

This is something that a lot of men (myself included) are lacking, because they simply don't have the requirements or they're too lazy to add what they need. What I mean is you should have certain things on your facebook, such as a lot of pictures showing you interacting with high value people, pictures showing you doing interesting stuff, a lot of people writing on your wall, maybe a "marriage" relationship status with a hot female (people do it for fun sometimes), you know what I mean?

There was a specific post that talked about this on this site like a year ago I think, I'll try to find it....
 

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I'd skip tthe "marriage" part. When I see chicks are in any sort of relationship with a dude, she's off my list.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'd skip tthe "marriage" part. When I see chicks are in any sort of relationship with a dude, she's off my list.
It's not to be taken seriously though. Of course she's not married 'cause she's in high school. But that's the point, it makes you look like you own a chick. Like you have some special bond with this chick 'cause you got her to be 'married' to you, people will wonder why you're so special etc. blah blah More rep to you.
 

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I'd assume that if a chick is "married" it means the same as "is in a relationship with" Therefore I assume that chicks think the same thing.
 

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NorwegianDJ said:
I'd assume that if a chick is "married" it means the same as "is in a relationship with" Therefore I assume that chicks think the same thing.
Does this really matter though? We all know that women will hook up with guys in a relationship. And more importantly, we know that women are attracted to men who attract women.
 

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NorwegianDJ said:
I'd assume that if a chick is "married" it means the same as "is in a relationship with" Therefore I assume that chicks think the same thing.
this chick does have the married status but i doubt it means shes actually in a relationship. she changes it quite often though. i know shes not dating the guy.. like u said its just another one of those guys she flirts with on fb. plus she agreed to hangout.. im not sure on what context but that at least shows shes got some interest i'd think?
 

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asianbboy said:
well i'll be honest she said she was busy but she also planned another date to meet up on... to which i said no of course, i've got a practice session that day and other stuff. problem is i've got a whole week ahead of me before i'm free again, should i text her in that time or just save texting to plan the next date? will she still be attracted after that period?
Dude if shes putting in effort and giving you another day to try and meet up why would you not? even if you have some stuff going on, make it happen.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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i don't know man... i'm an afc... now that you put it that way i feel like i missed an easy opportunity.. fack
also ive been messaging her a fair bit even tho we only met once and very briefly.. i think she may have been turned off a bit by that.
and this girl is way hotter than any girl i've ever dated. i have a feeling i'm gonna be awkward and unable to have a good convo :woo:
 

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asianbboy said:
i don't know man... i'm an afc... now that you put it that way i feel like i missed an easy opportunity.. fack
also ive been messaging her a fair bit even tho we only met once and very briefly.. i think she may have been turned off a bit by that.
and this girl is way hotter than any girl i've ever dated. i have a feeling i'm gonna be awkward and unable to have a good convo :woo:

Dude your having the completely wrong thoughts here!

You guys only met once and shes still down to talk to you and meet up. Good sign, if you're gonna meet up with her thinking its gonna be awkward then its really going to be awkward because thats the vibes your bringing before its even happened.

You gotta stop thinking im a afc.. this girl is somewhat interested in seeing your beautiful asian face again sometime.... and shes hotter than any girl youve dated.... Sounds like you're at least doing something right to me.


If you head to the meet up being like, im gonna kill this **** and shes going to love me your're gonna do a hell of a lot better than your mindset right now. And even if you dont do great its still a learning experience.
 

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thanks man.. i'll keep that in mind. im planning to pick up some coffe and then walk around, maybe to the mall
 
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