Facebook flirtation - advice needed

[SmoothTalker617]

OK, guys, longtime lurker here, first-time poster. Hard to believe it took me this long to actually post. This site has helped me a lot over the past six or seven years. Went from being a complete AFC to -- well, not what I'd call the ultimate Don Juan, but let's say I have much more success than I did in my younger days.

So I'm compelled to post and ask a little advice on this situation I've got going. One of my current plates happens to be a good bit younger than me (19). Yeah, I'd rather concentrate on women closer to my age, but I'm what you'd call a non-traditional student and just naturally end up being around younger ladies most of the time. This girl is the sister of one of my casual female friends.

I met her at this friend's birthday party a few nights ago. Just randomly commented to her how much she looked like another friend of mine, then started calling her by the friend's name (Lisa) the rest of the night. She laughed it up about it, then after I got home that night, she had added me on Facebook and wrote "Lisa says hey" on my wall.

So I wrote back, just kinda casually busting on some of the stuff on her wall. We did this back and forth for a few days. So yesterday, I decided "ah, what the hell" and sent her this message (I'd rather just ask her in person, but don't really see her on campus):

"Lisa! (Gettin' tired of being called that yet?)
You're a funny chick. Let's hang out sometime."

Her reply:
"If you're lucky!"

My response:
"I make my own luck.
I'll consider your phone number in my inbox a sign that I won the oh-so-highly-sought-after privilege of your company ...
Have a good weekend, Little Miss Attitude."

Fifteen minutes later, this from her:
"ha, I think you're funnier than I.
attitude is right. My weapon of choice!
Hope you have a nice weekend, too!"

So that's the situation. I've never really done this Internet flirting stuff before and I'm not sure how (or even whether) to read into this stuff. Thoughts from the board? Is this plate worth spinning or should I focus on others? Comments welcome from all, pos or neg! And thanks for the good reading over the years.

 

[tsmith2334]

Okay, this is all my speculation here, I'm no more qualified to intepret this then you are. Just a different mind looking at it I suppose.

I'll consider your phone number in my inbox a sign that I won the oh-so-highly-sought-after privilege of your company ...

I know you're saying it sarcastically, but you probably don't want to imply that. You kind of want to go for the reverse of that statement. You should be the sought after one.

Also, your flirting seems kinda "tight". A little scripted, and with a seriousness to it. My wall posts are much more laidback (lower case letters, grammar isn't always perfect), because I try to convey a more carefree and indifferent aura to it. To each his own though.

Those small criticsms aside, the friend add, initial wall post, number in the inbox and quick replies are all money. So keep up the good work.

 

[WC2]

I use facebook to converse every now and then, but I try to stay away from the wall to wall type of thing. I find that the guys who are too busy posting on walls aren't too busy getting women. These guys are usually busy making friends with women - Not something I have the least bit of interest in doing.

Sending a facebook message is fine if you've already sparked some attraction with a girl. Your message may have been a bit creepy, but you got your point across. "If you're lucky!" is just another way of saying she doesn't know if she wants to hang out with you, or she doesn't want to at the moment.

In the end, stay away from being that guy on facebook everyday. It's a great tool if used properly. If abused, it will make you a tool.

 

[SmoothTalker617]

I use facebook to converse every now and then, but I try to stay away from the wall to wall type of thing. I find that the guys who are too busy posting on walls aren't too busy getting women. These guys are usually busy making friends with women - Not something I have the least bit of interest in doing.

Sending a facebook message is fine if you've already sparked some attraction with a girl. Your message may have been a bit creepy, but you got your point across. "If you're lucky!" is just another way of saying she doesn't know if she wants to hang out with you, or she doesn't want to at the moment.

In the end, stay away from being that guy on facebook everyday. It's a great tool if used properly. If abused, it will make you a tool.

Believe me, I'm with you 100% on this point. I HATE using the Internet to do any gaming, but with this particular chick it's kind of my only avenue, at least for now.

Thanks for the replies, guys. Any other comments are welcome.

 

[tsmith2334]

Oh yea, Facebook flirting is best done sporadically, and when used in addition to other forms of flirting.

Don't get caught up in writing a new wall post every day. And don't just write on her wall, mix things up!

And considering your age, eventually, you probably want to phase it out. A 28 year old consistently writing on a 19 year old's wall is nothing to write home about. Phone calls, even e-mails are better. Something more mature and sophisticated, ya know?

 

[ezily]

I once got a girl's number from facebook but it never lead anywhere. She flaked every time so I just let her go.

But if you really want to get this girl I think you shouldn't reply to her messages or wall posts so quickly. Try to create some distance. Flirting over the net is hard because you can't see how she actually feels and you can't see her reactions. She could just be playing you. Just try to set up a meeting sometime. It might work.

And yeah, you really don't want to become that facebook guy. I see so many guys write really lame and pathetic stuff on girl's wall. It just looks weak to initiate contact with a girl over facebook. Seems like you can't do it in person. So you have an advantage of her initiating the contact, BUT if you don't act quickly she may forget why she tried to contact you in the first place.