"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Facebook cold approaches

5uave

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Hey guys,

I've read and been told that facebook and text msg are a big no no while getting with girls but then again, I see great potential. Especially with facebook. If you see your friend's photos with hb7 and hb8's wouldn't you wanna "add friend" and try to get then to hang out with you? It says it all right there, where they are from, name, around what age they are, and etc.

If they send you a msg, asking "do I know you?" there's your opening right there! Just reply with a C+F response and thats it!

Any thoughts?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Axcell

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Creepy much? Don't add people unless you have met them in person. You will look like a creeper, trust me, don't do this.
 

r0cky

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Who the heck said online pickup is a big no-no? As long as you dont limit yourself to only looking for girls online, its cool. The girls are real and when they arrive at your house you wont be having cyber sex with them.
I've found that its always good to be upfront on facebook. Something like "I was searching for someone when I found you and I like that you (something about her) so I just had to meet you"
Or if you want to be c&f you can say "You were the girl that was molesting me at a party last weekend" . Doesn't matter if its not true.
 

MikeYikes122

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If you're gonna mack on Facebook, you need to make sure you are doing two things.

(A) Facebook can't be your main avenue for picking up chicks. You have to be cold approaching or gaming chicks through your social circle. Facebook gaming is something you do on the side. It's just too hard to build the necessary confidence and social skills through strictly meeting chicks online.

(B) Once you've got your game tight in other areas, then you can hit up Facebook. When I see a chick that catches my eye on Facebook, I will send her a creative/funny message - something that pertains to an interest of hers or something she has written in her profile. The first message is key. You've really gotta come off as confident and funny or confident and charming.

You also have to make sure your pictures are good. If you're an ugly looking dude, then I don't think you're gonna have much luck with this. You should find one really good pic of yourself, put it as your main one and then restrict your profile so only your friends can see all the pictures listed of you. This way, she is only judging the really hot picture of you, because she can't see all of your tagged photos.

Another really good way of meeting chicks on Facebook is if you're a college graduate and living in a new city. Search for chicks who went to your college and who are living in your current city. That is a perfect reason to message her. Say something funny/confident/charming to her, then make a reference to your school. When she responds, tell her you need to meet up with some alumni, and you'd like to start by meeting up with her.

Also, when a chick who is listed as single has her profile open (unlocked for the public to see), that is usually a pretty good sign that she is looking for a boyfriend or some male attention, at worst. Either that, or she is very bad with technology and doesn't know how to secure her profile.
 

MikeYikes122

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Also, text messaging is fine. I text with girls all the time and will continue to do it despite others trying to urge me to stop. It's OK to text a chick and ask her what her plans are for the evening, for example if you're going out drinking with some friends and looking to meet up with her or if you're looking for some people to hang out with on a weekend night. Text away in those kinds of situations.

It isn't, however, OK to text a chick and ask her out on a date. It also isn't OK to text a chick who you are trying to game to have "small talk". Never text with girls like you're having an Instant Message conversation on AIM. Not only will that cause your phone bill to skyrocket, but it will destroy any IL she might have in you.

Texting can be a very powerful tool to raise IL if you know how to use it right. Not texting all together would be a pretty dumb move, IMO.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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