"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Brazilian_Blues_Boy

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Short and straight to the point this time kids, like a standing-up, clubbing rough f*ck

Cablelight has touched the subject in his latest post, which by the way is great, you should all read it.

New people, and not so new people, are suffering from a problem (and its consequences') which I like to call lack of internal referential.

Out of insecurity, fear of not being accepted, or fear of failing/losing , people need a coach with a blueprint on their ears all the time.

" Should I blink and breath when I ask her number or just one of the two?
Which one, please?? "

Oh, come on people!! We can do better than that right?
It's looking like we're on a f*cking Leisure Suit Larry game damnit!

It's time to grow some balls and make some heavy sh!t...
I was talking to my best Bud from highschool about going back to the past and doing it all again... if I could, I would do 10 times more sh!t than I've done...

We're so afraid of doing sh!t, yet, after things are through, the sh!t you've done almost doesn't count... you look back and laugh...
If I didn't get the LJBF, If I didn't get scared and chickened out trying to approach girls, I wouldn't have grown confident and learned the timing and the at-the-moment routines of social life.

Lately, I've been doing diplomacy works amongst my male and female friends, and even in my family... and I could only do it because at the past I was the one to have the balls and be the diplomat between two colliding groups in the class... between the class and the teachers, and all that stuff...

The only way to learn is by doing some real sh!t ! Being made fun at, getting all shy and red, by ridiculed, ignored, despised and hated.

Don't do this because "women like confident men who approach"
No, they don't ! You know what this ******** means?
Women would like the men that they want to approach them!
Do it for yourself damnit ! When I was a kid I was so shy I couldn't ask for a catchup bag at McDonald's.
Nowadays I play with the counter girls.

And don't do that sh!t of "only the pretty girls". Sh!t, the funniest girls are the weird ones, the chubby ones and the smartest ones are the goofy and nerdy ones.

They know that they aren't "cool", so, even though they have esteem problems, they learn to like themselves a lot and view life from a different optic, a funnier one, to lighten up the weight of the chains of being "different".

So, stop being a pu$sy, like I am myself sometimes (I don't like to cold-approach chicks at school), and start to make some mistakes.

Life in the spotlight, isn't made only of laughter, applause, declarations of love and girls showing their boobs for you.
It's also made of despise, being ignored, being booed, having people throwing tomatoes at you...

Everynight is a different story... and that my friend,that,

That's what the Blues is about

BBB
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Awesome post :)

If I may add something:

This kind of thing snowballs. Once you get a little bit of confidence going and realize that you have the means to do this on your own without relying on someone to tell you what to do, you get better faster and faster, and you have more and more fun doing it :D
 

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my friend would punch me really hard if i didnt go up to 3 random girls whenever we would go out somewhere...thanks to him.. now i grew balls and think nothing of going up to girls..by the way he also held a knife up to me if i pussied out
 
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