F This. Can you relate / offer advice

[dji_21]

I just got rejected twice in a week. Fed up! Need to vent / Need advice

I’ve had it. Any girl I try to attract ends up straight up losing any attraction to me she had.

Both times I had no clue what I was doing. Someone should punch me.

First, I got a friend of my to ask a girl I’ve been talking to at the gym for her number for me. She said she was “flattered”… that’s all I heard back.

Second, I got a girl’s email address in class and exchanged one e-mail with her then dropped my screen name and phone number in the next e-mail (I haven’t heard back)

It seems whenever I don’t give a crap about meeting / impressing a girl they become attracted to me. I can talk / make them have a great time when I am not attracted to them but a soon as I’m trying to hook up with a girl it’s like they get so turned off because I act like such an idiot(as evidenced above). This is crazy.

Honestly, I’m going to just focus on making a **** load of money so I don’t have to care what anyone thinks anymore. I’m just going to worry about myself, I don’t care about girls anymore. I think I should honestly just stop trying for at least 6 months.

 

[Kailex]

First, I got a friend of my to ask a girl I’ve been talking to at the gym for her number for me. She said she was “flattered”… that’s all I heard back.

Coward.
You should have asked her for the number YOURSELF.

Weak, very weak.
Are you in highschool?

Second, I got a girl’s email address in class and exchanged one e-mail with her then dropped my screen name and phone number in the next e-mail (I haven’t heard back)

Weak.
She was probably wondering where the MAN was that was trying to get with her.

Are you really THAT afraid to ask for a phone number yourself?
TWO examples of exactly what NOT to do.

You have to ASK for the number YOURSELF, not weasel your way around the issue and then wonder what's wrong. YOU are what's wrong in these situations.

Next time, do yourself a favor: If you can't ask for a number yourself, in person, you have no business trying to date anyone.

They're turned off because they keep expecting a man and instead keep getting a 12 year old boy.
Please tell me you're not older than 12.

 

[dji_21]

E-mail girl just called me lol

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

E-mail girl just called me lol

See you're getting too down on yourself too quickly. I know how you feel as we all have or have had this issue at some point. It makes it harder to just be yourself when you have too much invested in the outcome. Just keep your head up and next time ask the girl for her number yourself instead of having your friend do it. That immediately signals to her that you're too much of a pus$y to do it yourself.

 

[dji_21]

How soon should I ask her out? Should I exchange a few texts first?

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

How soon should I ask her out? Should I exchange a few texts first?

Exchange a few texts for what? The goal is face to face interpersonal interaction. If you are insecure and feel as though you have to create some sort of comfort before actually hanging out with her, by all means. I would suggest that unless your text game is rock solid, avoid this all together and just hang out with her (no fancy dinner date).