"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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F close day 2, now out of town

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I f closed a girl on a day 2. We ****ed for like 3 hours and I used 3 condoms on her. She was visiting friends and may be back in a month or two.

We cuddled for like an hour after ****ing. She was pretty cool. She said she would take me out to dinner next time she sees me.

Should I stop texting her since we can't meet up? I feel like texting her randomly with no meet up would be needy. She never initiated a text with me but always responds relatively quickly.
I met her a week ago and f closed her on the 6th day. The day after sex she had to go back to her state.

Thoughts? I am still going to be gaming other women. But I wanted to keep this girl around.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I would wait and see if she contacts you after she goes back to her state. If she doesn't then don't contact her for about three weeks when it's closer to time for her to come back to your area. If she does I would reply and have a short little conversation but don't talk excessively. From the sounds of it my guess is that she will be contacting you.
 

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Hmmm... good advice. But the thing is, I don't know when she is coming back. It could be a month, a few weeks, maybe never. And I feel like if I ask then it will be needy. I guess if she contacts me then I can ask and it won't come off needy.
 

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You were probably a fling. Women screw around and have little sexual adventures all the time when they travel. Half the time they have boyfriends and husbands back home.

You are probably just a penis to her. I wouldn't push for any kind of relationship unless she makes it very clear she wants that.
 

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Update:

Ended up seeing this girl in her state like a few weeks later. Had lots of sex for a day.

I figured that was it.

Then she texted me out of the blue and said she was in town. I took her out and we had sex.

She texted me the next day, and we had sex again.

That was like 2 months ago. Now she moved to my town. I tried setting up a date last week. She told me she already had plans that weekend and gave me the ugghhh emoticon.
She didn't say let's do something next week or anything like that. But I think I'm probably good since we already had sex a bunch and she reached out on her own before.

I responded 'k, shoot me a text when you're free and we'll hang some other day. Have a good weekend ;)'

She responded 'I will! Thanks!

That was a week ago. My instinct tells me to just wait it out. After all, I should assume she means what she says right? If she doesn't reach out in a week or so she probably won't.

Thoughts? I feel like reaching out will be bad since I wouldn't be congruent with my words.
Essentially it's a soft next
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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In general, always wait for her to reach out.

That said, two really good signs are: having sex 3 straight times (requires intangible chemistry elements where you literally have to try before you buy), and cuddling (that means she produced cuddle chemical oxytocin). My girl and I had sex on the first date (I booted her after) and cuddled on the second date (she had her period, touche), and we stayed together. The next time I was with her during her period, we had sex 3 straight times. I'll never forget passing out after the second time and her saying "Neil....." and waking up inside her for a third time that I swear healed me from circumcision trauma from age 1, 45 years later.
 

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Yah. But I haven't seen her in two months and she said she had plans that weekend. I'm def over thinking it. I guess I should just keep not reaching out and assume she will reach out. Thanks Neil. I just never been in a situation with a girl out of town then moving back.
 
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Moving back to town could be a rough transition. You need to hook up all the bills possibly get a job see old friends etc.. could take weeks or months to settle in.

I would Stay true to your words and wait till she contacts you. Do your thing because she is a woman after all and may just leave you hanging in the wind.
 
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