"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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F-Close Autopilot?

MtnMan

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I have noticed this phenomenon that has happened with every single F-close I have had since getting out of my 7 year LTR. There has been 3 different girls, 3 very different situations, same thing happned for all three.

In the morning I cannot really remember how I went from beginning the interaction to actually closing the deal. I remember details here and there, but a lot of it is a mystery.

I usually remember every word of every interaction I have on a daily basis. Some people have told me I have a photographic memory.

With a girl I had sex with in the Dominican Republic, my first clear memory is of her riding my c0ck and thinking, "wow this girls black skin looks so funny against my extreme pale skin."

The next girl I met in a bar, she was a friend of a friend. I remember being immediately drawn to her firey eyes and telling her just that. I remember snippets of the night, and I remember walking to her house. But how did I get her to leave with me? I don't know!

Now, I know what you are thinking..."Mtnman, you were drunk, this happens all the time" True I had been drinking in both of those instances, but I have never blacked out of lost time from drinking in my life. Also, I was not wasted by any means either of these times.

I still suspected the alcohol combined with animal instinct was causing my memory loss.

Now enter the latest scenario:

I meet a girl from match.com on a Sunday. We go to a local dive, play two games of pool. She cant drink so I have one beer and chat her up and flirt with her. I remember asking her a bunch about her violin playing and I remember her offering to play for me since her apt was close. However, after that things get fuzzy. I remember taking her hand on the way back to her place, but that is about it. It is very fuzzy, even though I had basically zero booze in my system. I'm a pretty big dude, and a single beer has zero effect on me. In the morning I wasn't even sure how to get back to the main street from her apartment.

Anyways, not sure what the point of this post is. I wish I could remember what I did or said better so I could learn from it. Apparently I am pretty good at closing the deal, I think its the opening that I need to work on.

Is this unique to me, or has anyone else experienced something like this?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I know exactly what you mean, OP.
When I can't sleep, I try to remember all the girls I've fvcked and how I achieved it. So many times I just can't remember! It drives me nuts.

It takes me back to when I was a teenager and asking older guys how to get laid. Every single one of them said something along the lines of: "I honestly can't tell you. Just speak shyt and be funny."

They could never just say: "Right, you walk up to a girl and say this. Then you do that, then you tell this joke and voila! You'll be golden."
Strange phenomenon.
 

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i like that i seem to have some natural instinct to go for the kill, encouraging for sure. But I would like to be able to analyze the situations a bit more and figure out where i could improve!
 

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Good read however I cannot relate to the blacking out; sober that is. I guess you now have a Don Juan alter ego :up:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You're just 'in the zone' or 'in the flow' at those moments.

Same thing happens on moments where you excell in a game of sports. Like in football or basketball, sometimes you make some brilliant moves and pass two defenders, then score a brilliant goal.
If you try to think back how you did it, you don't really know either. You just did it, like automatically, without thinking, unconsciously... If you consciously try to repeat that action afterwards, you'll find that you can't!
 
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