"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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F*cked up bad, can I fix this?

TheMaestro87

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Met a girl two nights ago at a party. We hit it off well, she pretty much forced her number on me and told me to call her yesterday. I texted her in the morning with the whole "I'm really glad we met last night. Those pretty eyes, that amazing smile... etc... Anyways, that's enough about me, how are you?" She obviously liked it and we texted back and forth maybe two or three more times. After a couple hours I called her to tell her I was taking her to dinner then another party that night. She agreed but later flaked for dinner.

On to the the main point. I meet up with her at the party and she's all over me for a bit. Then she sees someone she knows and goes to talk to them. I walk off with my buddy. We decide to leave because they're out of alcohol and we have some at our fraternity. I text her saying I'm leaving and to have a good night. She texts back "bye, see you tomorrow?". I, for some dumbass reason, text her back telling her if she's lucky she can see me tonight but she has to bring her friend with her so I don't get taken advantage of. We had talked about action dates for awhile at the party while she was all over me so after no response to my text, I send her one saying we'll do something new tonight if she swings by. Again, no answer. Finally, I send her a text saying I'm going to bed but I'd like to see her tomorrow.

I know I made some glaring mistakes (I haven't been this far into a pick up in awhile and definitely don't have it down). While I think I learned a great deal about what not to do, I was wondering if I can fix this and still give myself a chance. I'm guessing no, but give me feedback.

NOTE: I was drunk, partial blame goes to that for ****ing up.

Thanks in advance.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TheSplat

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Text her back in three days. Or just wait...she'll probably text/call you first. Set up a one on one date and go from there.
 

DJDamage

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You sounded way to eager to please her and to ensure that she knows that you like her. Instead of letting things flow naturally, you tried to force them. This girl was attracted to you being laid back and cool but once you started with the whole text messaging you sounded whiney, pushy and way too available.

I suggest you stop with the whole text messaging because it hinders your game. Text messages are for women who check up on their man to ensure he doesn't stray, sort of like a dog on a leash. The minute you left the party with a friend you shouldn't have text messages her that you are leaving, that is like asking for permission. Let her wonder why you left, and why you forgot about her and who might you go and meet (another woman prehaps??!). The more she is unsure about your feelings towards her, the more she will think about you.
 
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