duke007
Master Don Juan
She's more like a friends with benefits as we get along really well, and have hung out a few times without any sex involved. Definitely not a booty call situation here.
I hadn't seen her for more than a month, mainly due to the Christmas break but also because she lives so far away (more than an hour's drive).
Still, throughout this whole time I receive suggestive texts from her as she's a bit of a nympho and has raved about how well I understand her body etc.
She invites me over to stay the night (as her mum will be away) to practice making ****tails (doing a bartending course) and play Monopoly.
Fast forward to kissing on the floor in a pile of play money, she seems right into it as usual, but the moment I slide my hands under her shirt she stops me and says firmly, "I think we should stop". I pull back and look into her eyes...she's definitely not playing or teasing. So I ask, "Is something the matter?" She replies, "Yes, we need to stop.......sorry"
Despite my raging boner, I was respectful and rolled off her, but she didn't say anything else except more apologies.
Problem is we were to share her double bed! After more awkwardness that came spewing out of her mouth, I just told her not to stress or worry, and that because we are good friends and communicate well (we do) she can tell me what's on her mind and I won't get mad.
She replied something like this:
"You know I've just had it with having sex with people and then waking up in the morning and feeling hollow because I won't see them for another month. I really want to have sex with you because I enjoy it, but I know you don't like me and I'm just sick of feeling used"
Then she reveals the real reason for the outburst...two nights ago she was hanging out with "this loser" (her words) because she was lonely and needed to escape the house. He got her drunk and even though she didn't want to and protested, he picked her up and put her on the bed and started fingering her. After finally making him stop, he had her give him a bl0wjob. She did it because she finds it difficult (and feels unnaturally guilty) to refuse and was intimidated by him (she has an abusive father, who I'm sure gave her the submissiveness issue). He then ignored her afterwards (was supposed to follow-up call)
Hearing this makes me angry (rapists are complete scum IMO), but I reassure her that I respect her decision and confidence to stop me, and that I'm glad she told me the real reason for her turmoil. Also that I do like her as a friend and don't just see her to use her for sex. She said that if I kept kissing her we would have ended up having sex.
After a while, with me lying calmly and respectably (no kino or pressure) in her bed, she began to fidget and try to poke/touch/breathe on me.
Soon she was saying she wished she could take back her words and that she didn't mean it blah blah blah. I could have easily f*cked her right then but I decided not to....and I think I made the correct decision.
I can tell this girl likes me a lot and wants to extend the relationship, and while I like her also (good sex, conversation, caring personality, smart) this unpredictability keeps me at a distance.
She's 5 years younger than me, immature, prone to crazy mood swings and disturbing emotional episodes (due to hanging with the wrong people and making bad decisions).
Never thought I'd say this, but actually starting to feel guilty for stringing her along.
How would you guys have handled the situation?
I hadn't seen her for more than a month, mainly due to the Christmas break but also because she lives so far away (more than an hour's drive).
Still, throughout this whole time I receive suggestive texts from her as she's a bit of a nympho and has raved about how well I understand her body etc.
She invites me over to stay the night (as her mum will be away) to practice making ****tails (doing a bartending course) and play Monopoly.
Fast forward to kissing on the floor in a pile of play money, she seems right into it as usual, but the moment I slide my hands under her shirt she stops me and says firmly, "I think we should stop". I pull back and look into her eyes...she's definitely not playing or teasing. So I ask, "Is something the matter?" She replies, "Yes, we need to stop.......sorry"
Despite my raging boner, I was respectful and rolled off her, but she didn't say anything else except more apologies.
Problem is we were to share her double bed! After more awkwardness that came spewing out of her mouth, I just told her not to stress or worry, and that because we are good friends and communicate well (we do) she can tell me what's on her mind and I won't get mad.
She replied something like this:
"You know I've just had it with having sex with people and then waking up in the morning and feeling hollow because I won't see them for another month. I really want to have sex with you because I enjoy it, but I know you don't like me and I'm just sick of feeling used"
Then she reveals the real reason for the outburst...two nights ago she was hanging out with "this loser" (her words) because she was lonely and needed to escape the house. He got her drunk and even though she didn't want to and protested, he picked her up and put her on the bed and started fingering her. After finally making him stop, he had her give him a bl0wjob. She did it because she finds it difficult (and feels unnaturally guilty) to refuse and was intimidated by him (she has an abusive father, who I'm sure gave her the submissiveness issue). He then ignored her afterwards (was supposed to follow-up call)
Hearing this makes me angry (rapists are complete scum IMO), but I reassure her that I respect her decision and confidence to stop me, and that I'm glad she told me the real reason for her turmoil. Also that I do like her as a friend and don't just see her to use her for sex. She said that if I kept kissing her we would have ended up having sex.
After a while, with me lying calmly and respectably (no kino or pressure) in her bed, she began to fidget and try to poke/touch/breathe on me.
Soon she was saying she wished she could take back her words and that she didn't mean it blah blah blah. I could have easily f*cked her right then but I decided not to....and I think I made the correct decision.
I can tell this girl likes me a lot and wants to extend the relationship, and while I like her also (good sex, conversation, caring personality, smart) this unpredictability keeps me at a distance.
She's 5 years younger than me, immature, prone to crazy mood swings and disturbing emotional episodes (due to hanging with the wrong people and making bad decisions).
Never thought I'd say this, but actually starting to feel guilty for stringing her along.
How would you guys have handled the situation?
As in I'm not gay but I don't act the same as all other guys she's ever met!