"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Eye contact

Comatozed

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I find myself struggling with this in various social situations.

I don't avoid it by any means, but after a while it feels ****ing weird to not look away.

When on a date, should I just point black refuse to break eye contact or what? In order to come across more dominant?

How big of a deal is it? All that's going through my head is we've been staring into each others eyes for ages one of us should look away.

Any tips/in put?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The more eye contact you make, the more of an impact you make during conversation. It also shows you are attentive.
 

RangerMIke

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Comatozed said:
How big of a deal is it? All that's going through my head is we've been staring into each others eyes for ages one of us should look away.

Any tips/in put?
Yes... it is a VERY big deal, likely the most important aspect of body language.

If you see a woman in public that you want... lock on her eyes. If she looks at you then looks down... go up and talk to her... If she looks back at you and locks eyes with you as well, smile, if she smiles back, it's game on. If she looks away then looks back at you again smile and go talk to her. Any other response she's really not interested. Most women who are not interested wouldn't even look at you.

NEVER break eye contract first... NEVER. If you are having trouble with this practice in the mirror on yourself. If you do this right it WILL seem very uncomfortable at first but you will get used to it.

After you walk up and talk to her keep eye contact when she is talking or when you are talking. If you just met her, you need to put out a sexual vibe... the way you do this without even talking is to look her straight in the eyes without looking away and just imagine that you are fvcking the sh!t out of her and that you and she are enjoying every minute of it. What you are feeling inside will transfer to her... and she WILL pick up on this. I don't know what it is but it definately works.

I have a female friend of mine that I do this to on occasion just to mess with her. When I do I can tell she gets all flustered and flirty... it's funny... it does work, because when I don't do this with her we're just buddies.

But you have to maintain eye contact when you do this. If you've never done this before just try it.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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As long as you don't feel comfortable looking wherever you want, or even worse, don't know where you want to look, it means you're extremely anxious, even if you have so much fake confidence that you forget to feel your anxiety.
 

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Ty guys.

On my last date I made a bit more of an effort with it.

At times we'd kinda both just be staring into each others eyes kinda smirking. and if i wasn't drunk it mighta been uncomfortable but as I was drunk I just held her gaze. She would sometimes say 'what?' - again all with a smile and I'd just kinda smirk back and say 'nothing' and wait for her to look away.

I think this is the sexual tension thing I've previously been lacking on previous dates, that end up being a bit too friendly.

It's funny how something as simple as this changes her attraction so much. The conversation is pretty much meaningless.

Is it fine to just be saying nothing but holding her gaze? Kinda felt like I should say something but at the same time the 'uncomfortableness' seemed to work in my favour.
 

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I practiced this a few weeks ago at a pub. Walked in to the pub noticed a girl checking me out. I pretended I did not see her. Walked back and made eye contact with her we held each other stare for a few seconds, she broke first looked away and looked back again. I continue to walk on by her. Was this correct what do you do when they break away eye contact and look again?
 
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