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Has anyone else had this experience with eye contact with a women or girl?

Sometimes while in a busy place like on a crowded street or in a mall while walking along I will make eye contact with a women as we pass each other. Everything I have read says to hold eye contact so when I see an attractive girl and she looks at me I will hold it until she looks away.

So if this is such a powerful way of communicating why do I feel so uncomfortable doing it? It almost creeps ME out to do it. Am I just uncomfortable because I am learning a new skill and it will get easier? Or do men attribute a different meaning to eye contact?

I understand that on some level women get a message from the stare, but I wonder exactly what message they are getting. Am I showing dominance? Or am I communicating that I want to fuk them? Or am I creeping them out as well? Just what message does the eye contact send to the women?

I find the whole eye contact thing confusing and want to figure it out. So can anyone tell me what IT MEANS TO THE FEMALE.
 

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its more about the feeling you get that makes it count... if you feel uncomfortable and creepy doing it then I can assure you, your eyes will probably show that all too clearly.

When I do it and the girl is attractive and I'm staring into her eyes, I will feel turned on! And thinking to myself "mmm girl, I will pleasure you like no other man has!"

Usually it will make me kind of smirk. At the very least she will tell I'm not afraid of her, and that I find pleasure in sharing something with her... I don't feel creepy at all, I love women. Love feeling attracted to them. It's normal.
 
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....let me also add. Remember... You're not treating her like a piece of meat. It's not creepy at all... why? Because you're actually looking into her EYES!!!

Obviously I would feel even more turned on to stare at her breasts... observe how her curvy calf's flow up her legs... But we ain't like all the scrappy dogs out there that she has to ignore constantly. We are powerful. We are men to be respected.

So don't forget those basics... You are attracted to her so you want to connect with her. And you are respecting her as a human to connect with her on an emotional level (eye contact), and not just think I want to bang her (devouring her body with your eyes).... nope, don't just think that... think, "mmm babe, I would pleasure you like none other!" haha.
 
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lYlasTer said:
Maybe you should smile a feel seconds after you do it. If you jsut stare down a girl she's going to think you're creepy.
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If you have the right attitude your eyes will smile for you
 

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It's more than just eye contact. It's everything else too.


Presumably you're holding eye contact just for the heck of it. No porpoise. It creeps you out. However, if you looking into her eyes, sort of exploring her, listening to what they tell you, seducing her, and waiting for that looking away on her part first because she just pictured you sticking her, then you're doing it right.


Pretend that you're in bed with her, picture fvcking her. Looking into her eyes, deep, and exploring her slightest body movements. Picturing having sex with her.


In return she's looking back at you, wondering why you looking at her. It's not normal for people, especially men, to stare at girl's eyes, lock on. Usually men are sh1t and they look down in submission, giving that power to her. She's looking for that. But past that, she's also looking what you're trying to convey. Convey SEX and POWER, instead of little boy trying to practice eye contact and feeling uncomfortable about it. It's easy, what you think you become.


Eye contact is much more important in person to person interaction, rather than just walking by a stranger. So, get on with it asap.
 
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Stuntmann said:
Presumably you're holding eye contact just for the heck of it. No porpoise.
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I guess you hit the nail on the head there Stuntmann. Eye contact is just like a handshake or a pat on the shoulder. They all have meaning based on what the intent is.

I never looked at it this way before. Thanks for that.
 
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