"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Eye contact is harder than I thought...

Htienvu

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I am 1 week into the djboot camp and finding it hard to get eye contacts with people. I live in London, went to the shopping centre to do the task but find that most people just walk through the day oblivious to what's around them, it's impossible to get eye contact with 95% of people. they don't even look at you. I consider myself to be an ok looking, cleanly shaved and well dressed guy, maybe it's just the culture here.

Well that's my rant... What's it like with you guys?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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SharinganUser

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Here is something to try out. When you are walking around, and as someone is walking towards you make eye contact with them and say "hello." Hold the eye contact until they either say "hello" back or walk past you. Nine times out of ten they will respond.
 

Strelok

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If you were a tall goodlooking guy do you think you would need a suggestion to get eye contact from people?

It could just be that people is not interested in having any contact with you,do you do eye contact with homeless people when you're 100% sure that if you do they will ask for money?

I know that this is not exactly what you want to hear but in order to get the best out a situation it needs to know what the situation is.
If you think it's a cultural thing just find a goodlooking man and with discretion check if he gets any eye contact from people or not and you will have your answer.
 

scribblec

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women love to eye contact in london i have no idea wat london your in,

i can be walking through a crowded shopping centre and lock eyes with someone walking towards me 15 metres away and they wont break it and im not tall or anything lol
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Jack-Torrance

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I USED to be fiiine with eye contact. I used to be amazed that people couldn't do it.

I lost some confidence since then and now I understand what people feel.

Basically my thought process used to be "as long as she doesn't break eye contact with me, she likes me" and "she is being just as bad by staring back and not breaking it"
 
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