"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Hey fellow DJ's. Just went on vacation and since I just recently exited a relationship (dumped girl b.c she had insecurity probs) I decided to practice up on my eye contact. One night out with my family at a restaurant I noticed a HB8 eating with her family as well. We made eye contact and I smiled and held until she looked away. She then kept looking at me throughout the rest of my time at the restaurant, of course I looked back and held it. But she didn't smile.. it was odd in that way. I'm wondering if girls are still interested if they give you strong eye contact even if they don't smile?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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haha it felt like it without a smile
it helps teach me to smile at other girls when I give EC
 
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Her Thought Process Upon Eye Contact

1) First time - "he's cute".
2) Second time - "is he going to come talk to me?".
3) Third time - "is he afraid to come talk to me?".
4) Fourth time - "weirdo".
5) Fifth time - "psycho".
6) Six time - (reporting you to DHS via text).

The first time you make eye contact, you want to hold it until they break it. They should hold it for a few seconds, and should look down (=good, sign of submission) but they might look up (=bad, they roll their eyes - as if). If they look left they are a Feeler, Analyst or Elitist*. If they look right they are a Driver. Looking left or right is neutral.

Ideally she should smile upon eye contact. Say something - anything - within 3 seconds. She will then probably just start talking to you and it will be easy. She will often initiate.

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* Those are the 4 personality types from Glenn Foster "How Can I Get Through To You" a classic on understanding personality types.
 
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That's good advice. I agree. However we were with our own extended families and a bit young to pick up girls/guys around our families haha

my real question was the reason behind her prolonged EC when she didn't smile, but initiated it. I found this perplexing as I was smiling
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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This, is why eye contact bugs me. I always have that fear of being thought of as a creep. I think a lot of it is mostly your appearance, if they like how you look they will usually smile , but if there not sure if your their league or under them they will stay neutral , or extremely negative it their ego is big. lol
 
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Don't think you're a creep - being ignored (apathy) is far worse than being hated (the negative of love). You want to draw some emotion. Plus, think positive. Do you hold eye contact with fat girls in the restaurant?
 
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you're never a creep unless you think you are

the best thing to do is stay happy, smile and enjoy yourself
 
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They should smile otherwise the other person would think "creepy" right there. They know that. They look at you for some other random reason, and there are plenty. I once caught a chick look at my crotch while on the bus. She was seating in front of me and I was standing. Well, I looked down and caught her staring, then she looked up and we held eye-contact, then she looked up when I wasn't looking and I caught her again. It was weird! I think she was bored out of her mind, thats all. I draw attention of bored people for whatever reason. All the other times it would include a welcoming smile. I think she just had nothing better to look at, that's all.
 
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same thing happened to me at a mall. hb 8 and i crossed paths a few times. first time we had an eye lock i stared in her eyes. second time i checked her out. last time i was standing near the counter and she was making for the exit when she gave me the look again and i just stared back at her with a slight naughty smile. she turned her face kept walking & a few seconds later turned back and gave me a naughty smile.

i was on family vacation & my parents were with me then so i didn't go up & talk to her but non verbal flirting does work
 

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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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i dont think smiling is that important. infact a naughty look & showing you're not afraid to check her out shows that you're comfortable with yourself. you can smile after a few eye locks just to communicate that you're non threatening but just smiling from the beginning will make you come off as friendly not attractive
 
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