Eye contact. Does it really mean anything?

[leeman67]

told everyone that I am a social Weenie.... lol(at least I have a career I guess.. LOL)

I have this co-worker that her office sets opposite of mine. We can see one another everyday. We have talked some on friendly terms, know each other by name. but I wouldnt say we really know each other yet. Here is the issue.

I most definitely find her attractive. So yes, I glance at her. Alot of the times I happen to look at her. she is also looking at me. Most of the time. She looks away from me or back at her computer as soon as we make mutual eye contact.(I am afraid she going to get whiplash...LOL). Sometimes she will smile at me and say Hi. Other times, she doesnt react at all if I smile at her.

I do get some vibes from her at times that she likes me, but if we happen to meet each other passing in the hallway, I will say hello to her , She replies hi back. but is reluctant to return eye contact.(with a friendly smile)


With that type of reaction, I would say she isnt interested. however. I have another female co worker that comes in and talks to me sometimes(just friends). I got to laughing and cutting up wth her and I happen to look toward her office and guess what? Once again, she was looking me sqaure in the eyes to the point that I got a weird vibe. So I just looked back at my computer and went back to work. I glances out of the corner of my eye and could see she was still staring at me. I finally made eye contact with her again. Again same result. she looked away.

My point question: What the heck is going on with this woman? LOL

 

[Scoiland]

Originally posted by leeman67
told everyone that I am a social Weenie.... lol(at least I have a career I guess.. LOL)

I have this co-worker that her office sets opposite of mine. We can see one another everyday. We have talked some on friendly terms, know each other by name. but I wouldnt say we really know each other yet. Here is the issue.

I most definitely find her attractive. So yes, I glance at her. Alot of the times I happen to look at her. she is also looking at me. Most of the time. She looks away from me or back at her computer as soon as we make mutual eye contact.(I am afraid she going to get whiplash...LOL). Sometimes she will smile at me and say Hi. Other times, she doesnt react at all if I smile at her.

I do get some vibes from her at times that she likes me, but if we happen to meet each other passing in the hallway, I will say hello to her , She replies hi back. but is reluctant to return eye contact.(with a friendly smile)


With that type of reaction, I would say she isnt interested. however. I have another female co worker that comes in and talks to me sometimes(just friends). I got to laughing and cutting up wth her and I happen to look toward her office and guess what? Once again, she was looking me sqaure in the eyes to the point that I got a weird vibe. So I just looked back at my computer and went back to work. I glances out of the corner of my eye and could see she was still staring at me. I finally made eye contact with her again. Again same result. she looked away.

My point question: What the heck is going on with this woman? LOL

she wants you to take some initiative and go ask her out

If she keeps making eye contact with you she either

1) wants you to ask her out or for your number
2) Or thinks you look weird


But keep this in mind, women from your work are trouble. Make sure you know what you are getting yourself into.

If i was in your case i would just walk over to her and ask her how her work is going and tell her that you need a break and that you are going for lunch at _______ and she should come along.

 

[The Nice Guy is Gone]

I've been practicing holding eye contact a LOT lately, and I can tell you it does mean something.

It's like it's said all throughout the site, people are (in general, especially guys) intimidated by direct eye contact--whether with a smile or not.

Now, you can turn that intimidation factor into a good thing with a nice, GENUINE, smile.

Bottom line, if someone holds eye contact, or shys away from your direct eye contact, chances are it is exactly like Scoiland said, she's just waiting for you to make a move. I know that dating a girl you work with can work, but it takes work. If you want to ask her out, then do, because if you continue to wait, she will get tired of waiting and move on.

 

[leeman67]

EYE CONTACT

Ok. We have it either down to she is interested or thanks I am weird. Maybe its just me, but If I thought a woman was weird, I dont think I would be staring at her so much.. LOL.

So I guess I can eliminate out that she is checking me out to see if I am checking her out... LOL (Im getting a little deep).

There may be a problem with this woman. I havent 100% confirmed it, but I am pretty sure she is married. Im not into messing around with married women by any means. I feel too that its a line never to cross. I tell myself to forget her if she is married. Im just asking for heartache. But I find her very attractive and not able to keep from looking her way. (Maybe I should close my office door)...LOL. I would just reopen it back in a day or two...lol.

There is another issue to. Its not so much that I would be afraid to be shot down if I did ask her out(if she is single). The key issue would be the work enviroment. Sexual Harrassment has become such a touchy issue anymore, quite frankly, Im afraid of possiblty losing my job... (maybe I should go hunt those prostitues down afterall). LOL. Please advise...

 

[DonJuanMonk]

Eye contact means nothing, it matters most in what your eyes tell about you.

 

[escobar04]

uuuummmm

I think Eye Contact hooke 'em

whenever you're telling her a story or a general convo, keep the EC for a bit and they will be hooked

that stuff is a miracle!

....so is mavec!

 

[bbestar]

Ignore the target until, target initiates something with you then you hold EC.

Then ask her to get some tea with you. or whatever u do there

 

[The Nice Guy is Gone]

Re: EYE CONTACT

Originally posted by leeman67
Ok. We have it either down to she is interested or thanks I am weird. Maybe its just me, but If I thought a woman was weird, I dont think I would be staring at her so much.. LOL.

So I guess I can eliminate out that she is checking me out to see if I am checking her out... LOL (Im getting a little deep).

There may be a problem with this woman. I havent 100% confirmed it, but I am pretty sure she is married. Im not into messing around with married women by any means. I feel too that its a line never to cross. I tell myself to forget her if she is married. Im just asking for heartache. But I find her very attractive and not able to keep from looking her way. (Maybe I should close my office door)...LOL. I would just reopen it back in a day or two...lol.

There is another issue to. Its not so much that I would be afraid to be shot down if I did ask her out(if she is single). The key issue would be the work enviroment. Sexual Harrassment has become such a touchy issue anymore, quite frankly, Im afraid of possiblty losing my job... (maybe I should go hunt those prostitues down afterall). LOL. Please advise...

If you ask her once, and she turns you down, I don't think you have anything to worry about (harrassment situation); when you have to worry is when she shoots you down, and you keep on persisting with it. Othere than that, I think you'll be okay. And, as we all know, DJ's should never so persistent to the point of harrassment; ask her, get the answer, and move on with the siutaion (whichever one it happens to be)

 

[Vibe]

Then ask her to get some tea with you. or whatever u do there

Hahahahahahahaha.

Hahaaha..

In Chicago?

I say take her out to a speakeasy!


~Vibe~

 

[Sesar]

MAVEC = Ie being in a sexual state when you gaze deep into her eyes - Its GOLD!!!

Yes it's Awesome

Can u Feel the Electricity hehehe..

 

[Delta]

you should never have to ask "what's going on with this woman?"

you always always always simply ask her out. why torture yourself when one question nets you the answer? seriously, this is one of the biggest things i've learned from the pickup community.

now the question of workplace rules and her being married are separate questions - essentially unrelated to the eyecontact thing so treat them separately.

- eye contact thing alone - just frickin ask her out.
- work place - my opinion - don't do it. never mind sexharr - asking out does not constitute that. besides, why the f are you so concerned with sex harr? were you ever busted for it? what makes you think about that? anyway, don't do it because if things go bad, you cannot escape. when relationships fail, your one refuge is to get away from her... perhaps focus on other aspects of your life like work. if she's at work, you're screwed. personal experience.
- married - well, you're either a home wrecker or you're not. if you're not, then why even bother asking what the eyecontact means. it means nothing. period.

delta